Yes I think that's his point.

Hate is just disappointed expectations (or, you might say, disappointed love). When you get a certain distance away from the reality distortion field of theism, you are no longer disappointed because you see things as they really are. You lose your attachments to concepts of how things "ought" to be and so cannot be agitated that they aren't that way or even that people are misrepresenting how they really are.

Of course that doesn't mean you don't work to counter the concrete harms of theism, it's just that you can be more objective and calm about it.