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My ex and I are still friends and frequently go out together. Yesterday we spent the day together doing Xmassy things and later on went to a movie. (Fantastic Beasts 2) While still in the lobby, a voice called my name. I turned around and it was a woman I work with and who I've known for years. We chatted and my ex invited her to join us since she was seeing the same movie and was by herself. I agreed that she should join us and she accepted.
So we chatted a bit more then watched the movie. Afterwards, we spent a few mins discussing the film then said our goodbyes and off she went.
My ex still wanted to visit some stores for Xmas gifts for our nieces and while walking together commented that the other woman was very pretty (she is) and started asking me a bunch of questions about her.
"How long have you known her?"
"How often do you talk with her?"
"Is she seeing anyone?"
Stuff like that. She spent the next 5 mins asking me about her. This woman divorced me. Why does she care about my relationship with this other woman from work?
Is her curiosity perfectly normal or does it mean anything?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Is it possible that she is the one interested in the coworker?
VelociraptorRemy
Level 6
Dec 7, 2018
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Curiosity is normal. Doesn't mean anything deeper than than simple curiosity as to what's going on in your life. Making conversation by showing interest in your social life, possibly able to give you pointers from a female perspective if you happen to be interested in this friend. Also of personal interest to her, perhaps, is whether you knew her before your divorce or after.
I wouldn't read more into it than that, unless you are wondering if your ex wants to get back together and is assessing possible competition.
Julie808
Level 8
Dec 3, 2018
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I still get along with my two exes. When my first wife, who is the mother of my three sons, and I are at a gathering, which happens occasionally because of family, we usually spend much of the time talking. We have a long shared history, still have shared interests, and are still intellectually attracted to each other. When I was going to get married for the second time, I invited my first wife to the wedding and she cried, but declined the invitation. She was somewhat jealous, but wished me the best. There still is love between us, just not romantic love.
sfvpool
Level 7
Dec 3, 2018
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I find it very hard to believe in platonic relationships. I think there's something there. If you want her back, maybe you should risk it and propose it to her.
brentan
Level 8
Dec 3, 2018
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@creative51 I don't believe it. I think you're just codding yourself.
@creative51 I'm not familiar with the notion of untestable evidence.
I also have had platonic relationships..
Exactly what proof would you like me to provide besides my own first person experience?
@creative51 You write and you write. I don't believe you. I would feel sorry for you but you're coming across too arrogant for pity.
@creative51 Well, you were commenting back to me. Take your attitude and place it where the sun doesn't shine.
@creative51 No, you quit, you were responding to me. And feel free to block. There's an epidemic at the moment so you won't be noticed.
@creative51 here we see the two types of men personified. Those who, like you, relate to women as human beings. I strongly suspect @Brentan of being the other type, that is men who only hang around women in hopes of sex or food.
@OpposingOpposum Keep it simple, dude. I'm sure it suits you.
@creative51 Hey, don't be sexist about this!
@creative51 I mean equal opportunity. The right of anyone of any sex to enjoy wishful thinking and attribute nasty thoughts to people who disagree with them.
@creative51 shhhhhhhh. Don't sic the creeper on me! This ones a troll my friend. Don't feed them.
There are studies that confirm your POV.
It's the exception not the rule with men. Women are much more likely to engage in purely platonic relationships.
Me being derpfest with this sort of thing when younger, found out quite rudely how true that is when I became "in a family way" how many truly platonic male friends I really had, ZERO.
It probably means something. Understand that I'm still friends with my ex also. I would like to have the relationship with her that you have with yours, but if I did she would probably ask me to buy her something. I miss the days we went mall shopping and later had dinner in the mall.
DenoPenno
Level 9
Dec 3, 2018
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Why not just ask her if she'd like to join you and go mall shopping for Xmas gifts? Offer to buy her dinner if she joins you and see what she says.
@Sgt_Spanky I suggested it but all she wanted was the money.
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