I would like to know what it's like to be able to enjoy sex for the pleasure of it rather than the intimacy and affection of it that frankly I'd rather get from backrubs and cuddles but my body doesn't feel enough pain or pleasure to get that and it gets depressing as I feel I could use whatever ecstasy comes from such for people who have full sensitivity. Is there anything I could do to be able to enjoy such like some sort of legal drugs or something? I just want to experience it once......
I'm not sure if I quite understand what you are saying. I'm reacting to what I'm trying to understand from my own experience. When we are getting fulfilled we can then take the time and efforts to fulfill our partner. Sometimes is the time for you, you get what ever you like without considering me, and other times is my time. I get all the pleasures without considering you ( if that is what is wanted?) I"m not sure if this is in left field or not.
There was a guy at a divorce support meetup I went to recently who had considered becoming a sexual surrogate. So I guess that's a thing? I don't know how common it is and if men or women surrogates are more easy to find? I found it pretty fascinating... (and so did a lot of the women in the group - lol)
This is what sexual prostitution is for.
And why it should be legal everywhere.
@Secular_Squirrel Well, I think that is the purpose of the surrogate - not for the purpose of sex itself but for therapeutic purposes.
@Secular_Squirrel hmm - sounds like maybe she could use a sexual surrogate ?
@Secular_Squirrel Do you think your aspergers plays into it? My ex husband (who is undiagnosed but I am certain has aspergers - he and my son are very, very similar), was extremely sexual but had a difficult time with the intimacy. But my son is extremely snuggly whereas my ex hated cuddling. Everybody is different, but I wonder if this plays into your particular issues?