My daughter's in-laws are uber religious and keep trying to take my grandson to church. Thankfully my daughter and son-in-law tell her no, but I keep thinking she'll try to sneak him in. I hate that I even have to think about this. I think that if she does that my daughter won't let her watch him anymore, I hope so anyway. Just something in my life right now!
if your son-in-law doesn't know what to say to his parents you can advise him to say something like this: "mom, dad, i love you, and i want you to have a full, gratifying relationship with your grandson. however although he is YOUR grandson, he is MY son, and parents trump grandparents here. i do not want him being dragged off to church. i know you want him to go. i don't. he's my son. i win. the end. if you defy me on this i will have to limit or even end the time you spend with your grandson. i sure would hate to do that."
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