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So...since July, I've had an up and down journey with a local lady. She is foreign/had obstacles, but has a real live life to the fullest attitude! Be your best, look your best, explore etc, etc. Me? Coming off the loss of my wife is still a challenge in the opposite direction of that. However, after 2-3 break ups, we have had good conversations about falling in, or sabatoging a relationship. Maybe I was subconsciously sabatoging the relationship out of guilt and loss....perhaps. She is picky and fussy, but certainly not break up items. Where are we now? A pretty good place. I'm starting to enjoy life again and let go. Just thought I share. It's been awhile since I've posted.

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Ron_R 7 Dec 19
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Level 7

Be up front with your new Woman,tell her you have a place in your heart for her, next to your late wife.she will understand(hopefully).

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Level 9

Good to hear that you have been communicating but seems like she has her own problems to deal with. Wishing you love and happiness no matter where it comes from.

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Level 8

Just enjoy the time together and see where it goes.

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Level 7

Good luck out there. Live for you. Be true to yourself. Things will fall in place.

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Level 7

A loss due to death or divorce; Which is worse? A divorce.may have the partners bump into one another,unless one moves away, Death is forever,(however the Heaven aspect of the afterlife, is strong in many people).

@Ron_R Mine after 27 years(no kids) Sept.13th 2017...... Less waterworks,still get misty at times, grieving is different for each of us.

@Ron_R Perfumes,favorite songs,eating places we used to go to,all I avoid,maybe with new love the hurt will diminish,but the memories are part of us......
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Level 7

The "Adjustment period",as in a marriage,can be very stressful,finding out the "fit",personalities,foods, places to go, and cultures,as you said,she's "Not from around here".

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Level 8

Well at least you are thinking about it. None of life is easy.

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Level 9

Relationships take work - always! Dan and I are going through some medical and legal challenges. Can only make our bond stronger.

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Level 7

Yeah best advice/persmission/rule I ever gave myself don't sabotage your own happiness for even one day...happy is life

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Level 8

Glad you’re getting out there and having fun.

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Level 8

Really good to hear you are enjoying life and letting go

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