Well said! Yes! I always felt I had to fight. So I'd put my heart out there and then be grateful for whatever I got back, and I won't do that anymore. Don't have the time and energy to waste on that.

Definitely right. If everyone knows the others value both will do their best to keep this love alive, without saying anything. At the moment where you need to fight for it, something went wrong.

If you have to fight for them, then they aren't the right person.

It's always boggled my mind how so many people think that love is something to fight for. It's as if they are saying someone can be forced to love them, or that they can be forced to love.

That's not the way it works.

Love is an incredibly beautiful and fulfilling feeling. It's either there or it isn't. Sometimes it lasts a lifetime. Sometimes it lasts for a very brief period of time, and neither of those scenarios is less or more valid than the other.

Love fiercely, deeply, completely, and unconditionally. Begin with yourself, and others will follow.

No need to fight.

My ex, who had a pregnant girlfriend at the time of our divorce, was angry at me because I didn't fight to keep him. Good riddance!

I will never compete for attention

Same. Love, attraction, interest, respect: you either have it for me, or you don't. I have no interest in forcing--or even coaxing-- any of these. I find that disrespectful to both of us.

My daughter's are in their early/mid twenties - and hardly ever call. Of course I know they have their lives, just as I did at that age, but I decided way back then to call my family at the first of every month. I realized then, and I tell them now - you make time in your life for the things that are important to you.

To me,it's as if blindfolded,walking barefoot through a mine field.

If two Women you have told know about each other(no e mails or texting,yet) are vying for your heart,how does one make a choice,without breaking the others heart?

Yup