Thank you, and safe trip.

Background is in my bio. We haven't had sex since 2000, and recently I told her that it was unfair she stopped sex, that I still have desires, and I didn't intend to remain celibate. I still love her and our family; don't want a divorce, but we are economic partners and platonic friends. My only option is polyamory, i.e., ethical non-monogamy or divorce. I choose the polyamory; I hope she allows it.

@EdEarl Has she ever said why she won’t have sex?

@EdEarl A lot of pretentious terms for, "married in name only." If she has no interest in sex, it should not be up to her to, "allow" you to engage sexully with someone else. Despite that some will disagree with me, a marriage is a contract to have sex only with each other...no sex-no contract. I would not remain in a marriage such as yours.

@Marionville She doesn't like to talk about it, but it occurred when she was taken off harmonies she took for a hysterectomy. She said that she had no desire. I've seen enough self help videos on the topic to be aware that is not a show stopper, so IDK for sure. There are probably multiple things that influence her, like being married 35 years. I'm not alone, there is a group, "Dead Bedrooms."I'm autistic and challenged to understand body language and emotional communications.

@EdEarl I wish you nothing but best wishes, sorry for the position you find yourself in. Another loving partner with your wife’s blessing sounds like the best outcome for you.

@Marionville Thank you. She, of course, can do the same without me having a right to complain. I'll need all the good luck I can find, all the emotional strength I can muster, and the best communications of my life.

@EdEarl If we were believers, I would pray for you! ?

@Marionville LOL, thanks.

@dahermit It is his decision to stay in the marriage...not yours. He has his own reason and that is his prerogative. What you would or wouldn’t do is quite immaterial. If he wishes to have his wife’s blessing that is his choice too. There are no two marriages/relationships alike, all are unique and as long as both parties agree to the arrangements, then anything can happen within it.

@Marionville Dipshit, he posted on a "forum". That implies that there will be opinions given doesn't it.

@dahermit Please, personal attacks are not welcome. I find flame wars offensive, which is often what happens when you call someone, "Dipshit."

@dahermit I am not American, but I understand your insult perfectly. ...I expect an apology. What is wrong with people like you who can’t keep civil when pointing out a difference of opinion? I could respond to you in kind but wouldn’t lower myself to your level. You do know that there is a policy of no personal insults on this site, so it’s up to you whether you wish to comply or get thrown out.

@Marionville Go back and read your original response to my first post. Your demeanor was insulting to me and I reacted in kind. Please hold your breath until you get your apology.

@dahermit I never at any time insulted you, or used abusuve language. You are completely out of order.

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