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Hello potential friends. I am an ex-pastor-become-atheist, widower, living in a town where everyone I know is religious. So I am isolated and desire human friendship/companionship compatible with my unbelief. Anyone here from Casa Grande AZ?

DarwinChandler 4 Feb 17
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Arrived in AZ this week from MN where there are quite a few groups of freethinkers etc. I was hoping that casa grande would have a community to get to know and perhaps set up periodic meetings for discussions and community action events. So glad I discovered this site. Yael S.

Ysivan Level 1 June 22, 2018

We still live in MN but own a home in Arizona City which we visit several times a year. Not too many atheists in Pinal county that we've encountered, but I'm sure there are more than we realize. Good luck in AZ!

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My blog at darwinchandler.com contains a couple of posts about my background and journey out of religion. Hope you might be interested in my articles there.

Amazing website, I have a friend it may be very specifically helpful to. Thank you for putting in the effort. Your work will help a great many people. Just remember, you may only hear about less than one percent of those you've impacted. Keep up the good work, it is needed.

@DavidLaDeau Thanks David. I appreciate the encouragement. Obviously I am not a web tech and my blog is very elementary. What is "masking website?"

@DarwinChandler autocorrect, I fixed it.

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I understand.......ex Pastor myself. It's quite a journey. Love the liberty I have experienced in my choice. No more heaviness in all its characteristics.

Khmm Level 5 Feb 18, 2018
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Welcome, sir. I hope you benefit as much as many of us have from this forum.

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How the hell did that happen? How do you go from lifer to non believer? Did it happen in a instant or slowly over time?

Took 40 years so the story is long. But the short version is on my blog, darwinchandler.com

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Welcome!

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I'm far from AZ, but I cannot imagine how hard this journey has been for you. I read a couple of books written by former clergy. They'd given up their livelihoods, friends, and families to embrace reality rather than keep up a dishonest façade.
I have utmost respect for you, Sir.
Welcome.

JimG Level 8 Feb 17, 2018
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It is lonely but so much more acceptable. What do they say? Once you see it, it cannot be unseen.

Khmm Level 5 Feb 17, 2018

@Maiasaura... This choice is a really tough one. I carried an extremely heavy weight internally, which over the years became increasingly heavy......at the end almost suffocating. Then came a time when in conversation I declared that I really do not think I believe in God. It was a revelation to myself as a pastor you can imagine how difficult getting to this decision was. The weight lifted, depression disappeared instantaneously. Phew!!! What a relief!!!????

@Maiasaura..... The impact of this decision was so awesome, it was like leaving a dark cold pit and coming out into the fresh air after a heavy summer rain.

@Maiasaura and I blush ????

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Welcome Ex-Father! I attempted my personal run at religion at 19, when I announced to my family that I was entering the seminary. My father made sure it didn’t happen! I was wisked away to a remote seashore location for 3 months to air my head out. I am grateful he did! Unfortunately the same summer at the same location I discovered “that”, lol. THAT cleared my head right away!

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I wanted to be a pastor at one time. I started the classes, studying the bible, and before I knew it, I was out of the church and trying to find a new imaginary best friend. I imagine it sucks being in AZ. I grew up in Riverton, Wyoming, and it was a scary place to grow up. I'm grateful that I've never had to go back. New York is much easier.

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Welcome

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How interesting. Tell your story in a nutshell "Pastor-turned-atheist"? I know I'm intèrested! Welcome BTW. 🙂

The nutshell version is on my web site, darwinchandler.com. Thx for your interest

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Have you checked out the Clergy Project? Not sure if they only accept people still in the clergy, but your experience may benefit others struggling to leave.

I am part of the clergy project. I have a forthcoming book for which Dan Barker has volunteered to write a recommendary cover blurb.

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Welcome to the dark side Chandler. Youre among friends.

The women don't do "that" here either. Sorry

I will do anything for Love, but I won’t do THAT! ????

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Welcome fellow heathen. I’m in Tucson.

Marz Level 7 Feb 17, 2018
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Welcome! this is a great place to be. Please lend your knowledge and experience. Your contributions would be very much appreciated, in particular due to your background. We do have a new "testimony" section. I will take the liberty of saying we would all like to know your story.

Thanks David. The short versiion of my story is on my blog, darwinchandler.com

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Welcome.

Gohan Level 7 Feb 17, 2018
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