I don't know that forgiving others it always so good. How about forgiving yourself for putting up with a bad situation for so long.

It seems to be the religious who expect forgiveness from God, without caring or acknowledging the wrong to the person/people they wronged.

I have no problem forgiving someone who acknowledges the fault, and is sorry for it. Unfortunately, there are a few instances in my life where someone wronged me and refuses to acknowledge their part in the rift. I don't need those people around me - glad to cut them out of my life.

A religious person would say "forgive them and let it go." But if they don't ask for forgiveness from me, only their god, why should I? They don't care. In their eyes, they are good with God and that's all that matters to them.

I don't want to set the example that you can shit all over me and I'm perfectly fine with that. I have to show myself some love and set about never letting that happen again. I have to stand by my principles and I don't need to be in the company of anyone who doesn't respect that.