Nope.. keep looking .. your partner is out there..

You captured it pretty well. I do know that many couples meet online and marry. They become my clients. But I think it may work better in large urban communities, rather than the small place I live.

From my limited experience on dating sites, it seems it's a good way to build up hopes and have them dashed. The men I met on dating sites, after my divorce years ago, seemed to be desperate to meet someone, whether for sex or housekeeping/cooking purposes.

Last fellow I met online, I was with for 8 years. Was never a good fit, but sure tried to make it so. He continued to be on the dating sites well after we'd be dating for years. He was a habitual dater - never happy with what he had - always looking for what was behind door number 3 - and the thrill of cheating and getting away with it. Led me to believe that many of the men online are already with someone, and just looking for more.

Now, I'm of the age where I'd rather meet someone who is whole on his own, and doesn't need another person, but could enhance my life by sharing experiences.

Those who are happy on their own (like me) are not on the dating sites, so it will be a rare find if I do meet someone just going about my usual life. I'm glad not to be pursuing dates, especially on my little island, where it's the same handful of men from 10 years ago still on there, haha! Slim pickings.

Over the years, I've decided I'd really only be happy with a partner who shared the same humanistic beliefs I have. Therefore, I'm happy to be a member of this site, and while dating options are nil in my local area, perhaps someone might venture a visit to my island someday and strike up a friendship. Who knows. Not putting much stock in that hope. Happy just to converse with folks without any romantic notions. Good thing I'm not really looking!

The $20 or so for a monthly fee would only be worth it for entertainment purposes, hours of typing tedious messages with hopeful intent, only to be disenchanted by the reality when you meet. I don't think it's for me anymore. I don't have the time or patience for slim chance of results.

You gotta play the odds to get to one who fits the way you like. Been there, done it.

I've had two long term relationships from guys I met online. And one of those was from the weird singles section, no longer on Craigslist ! You never know ... and you only need one - right ?

Sounds like it weren’t for bad luck, you’d have no luck at all.
Finding a life partner is difficult even under the best of circumstances. What I’ve found, for myself, is that I had to first had to figure out what I really wanted. I suspect that many men on dating sites, also have not nailed down what they want.

Man I celebrate you getting out there. You're an inspiration!

I'm sorry you are having bad luck with men. I would say that you are at least meeting people and getting out there. Relationships are extremely difficult and as you get older so do the men. I'm a weird guy who will always believe there is that one person out there whose connected can be real special. I wouldn't throw in the crazy cat lady starter kit just yet. You still have a lot of life before you. I got tired of the online dating thing awhile back. Fuck that shit. I don't have time for games. It's also apparent to me that people have bad hygiene habits and that makes my dating pool small as shit but oh well. Hang in there and keep grinding you will find what you are looking for.

I sympathize,I'm a Widower.lost my wife of 27 years in 2017,if you think it's difficult at your age,try mine at 71,my "Equipment" still works,I have a younger women showing interest in me,met her here,she's in her 40's .Older men do attract the younger women,we are stable,not affected by drugs,alcohol,loose women or fast cars as the young guys are. Yes I've tried about all the dating sites,from E harmony to Zoosk,most Women were too far away,as you said, the memberships,were bottomless pits,you threw the money in and hoped.......