This is why I am dumbfounded by people who want to rush into committed relationships after a few dates before they actually know how compatible they are together. I assume the need to be in a committed relationship so quickly is to avoid the stigma of being labeled a "dog" or a "slut". There are countless "deal-breakers" that have to be out in the open before one gets emotionally attached. A questionnaire is a totally logical solution, although we don't necessarily live in a logical world...especially the dating scene.

No thanks, I will stick to the old fashion method of just conversing. It is so much more interesting to get to know someone by what they say and what they don't and the sauces of non-verbal communication. I don't understand what the hurry is to know everything about someone, in fact teasing out things is half the fun.

I believe what you are describing is online dating, you literally filter people on those criteria kids, religion and politics plus you can see unflattering photos of each other

Good idea. Maybe have post cards printed with little check boxes? On the front side have a tally? Something like:
Boxes Checked

• 1= No. Just no.
• 2= Maybe coffee.
• 3= Well OK, but just an afternoon. Maybe the zoo.
• 4= Sure. Dinner, maybe dancing?
• 10 or more= I'll be right over! Do you have an extra toothbrush?

As far as I know, it is socially acceptable, it is just never done.

First you have to find a guy who is a)willing to answer questions and b)willing to read your answers. Too many of them are just looking at your boobs.

I wouldn't decide against dating over something like wanting to one day move to New Zealand, because that's tentative, interests change, circumstances change, life happens, careers and other obstacles make a difference, a relationship with someone who doesn't want to relocate can change one's mind, etc. I think values are important, but distant plans are often fantasy.

I think people always lie in predate interviews or conversations because they want to date you so I think asking opinions on things before you look them in the eye is a waste of time. I want to know what a woman thinks of religion money politics and sex on the first date. And I watch body language as they answer. The first date shouldn't be only light and breezy I have to know if she's worth a second date.
In case you were wondering.

Religion: If you want to go to church then knock yourself out just don't put my money in their plate and don't even try to convert me or anyone in my presence.

Money: if you want to use it to help others I'm for it.

Politics: being fiscally conservative and socially liberal then we're good.

Sex: if you are inhibited or ever try to use it to get your way then you're sleeping on the couch and your stuff will be packed up and waiting by the door when you wake up.

Sounds like a good idea to me.. Problem is, though, it religates ‘love’ to the seat behind ‘practicality’

I guess this is why online dating has become so popular.

Normally you screen it out by talking, as that’s more personable and by the end you either have a friend, a potential romantic interest, or a stranger to avoid.

Luddite here. I still find conversation to be the best way to suss out someone. If we're not compatible, at the very least, I might have made a friend.

Yeah I think the questionnaires should be set up like those voting cards in Florida where you punch out the hole for your answer. And then you can just put your cards together and hold them up to the light and see how many of your holes line up.

Good question. I think it's an excellent idea.

I just happen to have enough perspective on these things to know, however, that:

• Many people get weirded out by paperwork of any kind, and paperwork in certain contexts: feels like schoolwork, or government stuff, which can be very distasteful to some.
• Many people would be turned off by systematizing a "getting-to-know-you" process like this, because they feel that getting to know someone can--or should--only be done certain ways.
• Even suggesting something like this might be enough, for some (narrow-minded, judgy) people, to immediately and irrevocably brand you as a weirdo.

If I were dating, I'd just make sure to hit the important highlights, as early as possible--preferrably before agreeing to a date--in as natural and conversational a manner as possible. And if someone balked at this, I'd know then and there they're not for me.

Sounds like a good idea to layout what is important to you. And if those things don't match, then would probably save some time. After I went through a divorce, I dated some. Took this one woman out, and as she had kids, thought, I also have kids, so that should not be an issue. Took me a little time to figure out she really didn't like her kids, and treated them badly.

I think this is something dating sites try to do to some extent and I agree it's a good idea.

That's the exact reason for OkCupid's extensive questions, plus matching system.

Must be a cell phone app for that. Exchange data, move on or move in. I like that kind of efficiency. That way emotions don't get in the way of the relationship or non-relationship as the case may be.

I agree and commented that to admin as well . They are trying to get folks to give useless info , so that you have to question everything , rather than providing the pertinent questions and answers up front . Even the % they show seem to have little or nothing to do with the resumes posted . I am particularly PO'd at the distance indicator . I set it for under 20 miles and it automaticly resets to 3,000 miles , every time !

What ever happened to slowly getting to know a person? Profiles are all well and good but not everyone is honest so I take them with a grain of salt. Personally, I prefer the slow method of getting to know a person. Like this site where you can read people's opinions on any given subject and learn so much about them. Messages, e-mails, phone calls before any public meet ups. Keep it simple.

I've always said that the first date is really just a job interview.

Why aren't lots of things socially acceptable?

These replies are amazing me. Really? You guys are looking for arranged meet-ups? The days of the Match Maker are long gone but maybe it's time to bring it back? I'm not on the hunt and maybe this is why.

I am all for it, and like @Vaughn says, that is pretty much how online dating works.

Socially acceptable? Maybe. I'm 74, so my knee-jerk reaction is "old school." Yet, a questionnaire might strike me as unusual, and interesting.