My husband and I attended his (very Christian) cousin's wedding this past September and I still think about certain parts of it.

The minister's words stuck with me, not because they were moving, but because they were, in my opinion, complete bullshit. He said a long worded statement that basically boiled down to "this man and this woman love each other because god loves them each individually and since his love is overflowing, it allows them to love each other". As if god "grants" us love and people are incapable of loving each other without him.

My husband and I are both agnostic. Marriage to us was an act of love and commitment. We have been together for almost 14 years and only got married last year. Why? Because we wanted to be ready. REALLY ready. We both worked retail and were in college for many years and weren't financially stable. We wanted to sort things out first and we were both willing to wait. We lived together for 8 years. We knew each other 100%. When we finally did decide to get married, it felt that much more special because of that. We knew it was time.

If that's not "love" I don't know what is. God doesn't give us that, we give ourselves that. Don't discredit what human kind is capable of by saying that "god does it".

The other thing that I found incredibly weird was after they said their "I dos" both sets of parents joined them at the altar. They all put their arms around each other and just sort of stood there in an awkward six person hug for several minutes. I assume they were praying. I have never seen such a thing. It was just so strange to me.

I have never before been to a wedding that made me angry. I was fuming a bit after the ceremony. The overall experience just seemed...wrong. I just don't get why people believe such things.