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Valentine's day is coming so I have a question to throw out there. Is it appropriate to ask a girl you have no interest in romantically on a date for Valentine's day just to be nice and make her feel special?

MrChange 7 Jan 17
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If you're good friends and you're doing it as a friend, make sure you're clear about that. Otherwise, no. No one wants someone to do something because they feel sorry for them.

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No, do that the next weekend, or any other day. Don't make valentine's worse than it already is for some ppl.

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Why not ? Might be a good time for both of you !

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Sure! You can ask me out anytime! Lol

I keep that in mind?

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I've done this with unattached friends all the time. With the clear understanding "We're both unattached and I love you like my brother".

Any holiday can be lonely without someone to spend it with. So why not spend it with a friend - just be up front that's what you want. Dinner with your friend so you both don't feel so left out. While you wait for romance to come along.

If saying that would damage your relationship? Than don't do it. But otherwise? Go for it.

I've also had friends buy me flowers on the day. Same reason. Just so I didn't feel left out (I presume). 😉 Nice guys all that I'm still friends with.

Thanks

Those are supe nice guys

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no. if she knows that's why you're doing it, it's charity and embarrassing. if she doesn't, then it's romance, and misleading. don't do it on v-day. go to lunch some other day.

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It could spark her interest in you,(not a bad thing),especially if you are longing to have a Woman in your life,nothing ventured,nothing gained.....

He says he has "no interest in"...

@maturin1919 it's a monochromatic reading rainbow!

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I wouldn’t like that, it would feel the opposite of special. However, if I was single and someone said, I know you are single, and we are friends; would you want to go out for dinner as friends? Give her a choice, knowing you see her as a friend only.

Exactly! That's the case.

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No, no, don't get her hopes up. It will only end in tears, or you both get drunk and do things you should not be doing and then she get pregnant and there will you be being so, so sorry for trying to be nice.

Well, that escalated quickly.

I don't drink. Lol. If you read many of my posts I won't have sex with anyone who has alcohol in their system.

@MrChange That's great but what about if she gets drunk and insistent, he, he.

@MrChange, @maturin1919 Oh, your funny

@Jolanta I don't hang out with or know girls that get drunk. That's not my crowd. It seems I can't have a decent convo without someone blabbing about alcohol. Smh.?

@MrChange Just pulling your leg.

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As long as you area clear about your intentions yes

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Only if you want to spend a whole lot of time explaining your intentions ahead of time, so she doesn't get the wrong idea.

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