Maybe most people don't honor or respect the wishes of the person's range, but I do and I don't want to waste my time messaging someone who will reject me for being too old for them. You must not be aware of how much men get rejected on paid dating sites in the first place, since they end up having to do almost all of the reaching out in the first place on those sites, so why shouldn't they at least get a little help avoiding the women who will reject them on age?

@TomMcGiverin I saw the movie Green Book today. One of the characters has a great quote: "The world is full of lonely people afraid to make the first move." Not making a statement--your comment just made me think of it.

@pasha-one-nine I saw that movie too and liked it. There's thread on here about that movie. I don't remember that quote tho. I'm not afraid to make the first move, just don't want to waste my time with additional first messages to women who will reject me on age, if nothing else, if their profile can simply specify their dating age range and spare me the trouble. I already send out at least a couple dozen of those a month as it is.

You may be right. If someone visits someone's profile, they probably can click on a button and get the member's answer to the age range ?, but it's not there on the bio that you see when you first click on someone's avatar. I agree with you that it's kind of pointless that the site displays compatibility ratings for members who are outside your preferred age range and distance.

Nope- When you visit someone's profile, there isn't a way to find out what their dating age range is. It will tell you their preferred distance and if they will relocate or not, but that's it.

I understand, but I think everyone has some personal range of how low or high they will go. I see comments all the time on here about someone being irritated or even offended at PMs from someone as young as their adult kids or someone as old as their parent.

As my bio says, I am open to as young as 11 years younger (tho for all practical purposes, that is pretty meaningless as very few women more than 5 years younger than me will date someone my age at least on Match) and 8 years older.

@TomMcGiverin "everyone" is unrealistic. Maybe check them out and ask them personally.

@Wildflower I respectfully disagree on the everyone line and will leave it at that. I don't care enough to PM members about it in general. If I was interested in dating someone who lived in my area, of course I would PM them with my interest in dating them and would of course find out that way.

I have no quarrel with others that date people far apart from them in age. My late wife was 16 years older than me and it worked great. But I was much younger when I met her and now having been widowed and being much older than I was then, I won't date someone that much older as I don't want to be widowed again anytime soon..

I would date a woman who was 30 years older than myself...if she was wealthy.

@dahermit Where there's enough money, there is always someone willing to make the transaction.... Most of us prefer relationships that are not a business transaction, but to each.....

@TomMcGiverin I woman 30 years older than him would be over 100. He's pulling your chain.

@Wildflower Noted. I hovered on him but didn't see an age listed, so I had no idea he was 70.