I don’t know what category in which this belongs. I’ve enjoyed most of my interactions with people on this site. Most animosity I’ve encountered has been my own I’m a bit ashamed to say; however, I have been blocked by a couple of people, and no one I was (in my opinion) a HUGE asshole toward. I was blocked by one just for making casual conversation about a mutually fancied dog breed. No sexual impropriety, no harassment (that I was aware of anyway), just benign conversation about dogs.
I’m sorry, but if you’re so damaged that you mistake innocently intended conversation for harassment or inappropriate behavior, then put it in your profile that you’re an antisocial FUCK who’ll block people for such, or better yet, find something else on which to spend your time because clearly social media isn’t your forte! 
The other was someone hiding behind feminism, singling me out for posting sexy pics of women. She denied singling me out, but copied my exact emojis, namely the Hang Ten feet 
I place in all or most of my posts. I get equal time for women as men. I’ve actually posted a few co-ed posts as it were, but my emojis got copied and pasted and no one else’s did. 
I was blocked when I told her I goddamned sure didn’t appreciate it.
I can be reactionary and petty. I know I can be a dick. I know this well, and at times I revel in it; however, I don’t need to be treated as a predator for harmless conversation, and I don’t need to be treated as a chauvinist prick for posting to a group specifically designated for sexy pics of either sex! 
Okay, rant over. Block me if you’re offended. Back to the regular scheduled programming. 
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.We are responsible for our own actions and the consequences of those actions. When one states, "I can be reactionary and petty. I know I can be a dick....and at times I revel in it," I don't see how he can reasonably expect others to make meaningful distinctions between his various intentions. If one is found to be "a dick" on some occasions, why would anyone expect him to be anything different? That may not be fair, but this isn't a medium conducive to second chances at first impressions.
It seems a lot of people choose to spend time here with incendiary, rabble-rousing purpose. I enjoy those moments, too, but I think it's probably more fruitful to just be polite - even in one's corrective discourses - and address the post, not the poster.
Shawno1972
Level 7
Feb 7, 2019
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Fair point. Thank you for your time. ??
Who cares? In the grand scheme of life, does it matter?
Everyone should keep in mind that this is a "subtraction" site and not an "addition" site.
Unlike other Social Media where you "add" friends, here, everyone is your friend until you "subtract" them. No one owes anyone an explanation as to why they have subtracted them....just as we don't owe anyone an explanation as to why we don't add them on a site like Facebook.
Freedom allows the free association of individuals --- this means that all adults have the inherent right to association or NOT association with whomever they so chose. ((no explanation needed or required))
Let it go.
SkotlandSkye
Level 8
Feb 6, 2019
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Fair point. Thank you for your time. ??
A lot of women, myself included, are sick and tired of being depicted and defined by 'sexy pics'. I could see why some peeps would block you on that. Each of us have different levels of rage and react accordingly. I don't know if you are aware of or even care about how some women see the world in todays climate but I thought I would mention it anyway. You will do what you do anyway and that is your right. Not trying to argue with you...just presenting another point of view.
patchoullijulie
Level 8
Feb 6, 2019
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I would agree with you, were it not for the group wherein I posted was created for “sexy pics” to be posted of BOTH SEXES (as my original post expressed). I keep those posts to what I thought was the appropriate place to share admiration of the human body in VARYING forms. I wasn’t blocked for posting pics. I was blocked for telling someone I didn’t appreciate being singled out, when clearly there were more than just me in the group, men and women alike. She denied singling me out, but mine was the only post wherein she copied the emojis I used exactly. I realize that some women don’t appreciate those types of posts, but again, that’s what the group is FOR. Don’t like it? Don’t join the group. I’m not oblivious nor unempathetic to many women’s struggles in the way of unequal pay in the US, the attitudes toward contraception, sexual abuse, etc.; however, I don’t feel like I should be treated as predator for enjoying a harmless medium. If you’re offended by something I’ve posted, you can choose to ignore me, but unless I’ve sent you a PM and sent you unsolicited inappropriate content or something, why Is It necessary to block someone? Again, if someone is that damaged, perhaps social media isn’t the best place for them. ??
@TDSkully Fair enough, I actually agree with some of what you say and I wasn't involved in the incident you are talking about, so I can't comment on that of course. But I did want to take the opportunity to express a viewpoint to the sexy pics thing in general. I have to also add that I feel the same way about men being cast in the same light.
@patchoullijulie, thank you. ??
""I was blocked!?" Group" might be the place you are looking for
tinebean
Level 7
Feb 6, 2019
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I didn’t realize there was a group dedicated to that. I just thought I was being petulant and dramatic. ??
you know they think of everything here! 
I block anyone who is rude, crude or lewd to me or another woman, who is open to dating but is married or in a relationship, who says he wants casual hook ups, etc.
No point in wasting time with such people. Most women here are genuinely looking for a long-term relationship with a loving, compatible partner.
birdingnut
Level 8
Feb 5, 2019
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Nothing on my profile indicates any of those. Like I said, I wasn’t lascivious, rude, or disrespectful to the first one. I thought I was making friendly conversation. I guess it’s too much to ask that someone not assume there’s an ulterior motive. The other one insulted me first and I called her out on her nonsense. ??
@TDSkully Your profile lists "hookups" in your "interests." Also, it's never wise to "call a woman out on her nonsense," as she is likely only looking for a kind, compatible man, and she might, like I would, decide you're not in the running, and block you.
@birdingnut, then she shouldn’t single people out, for no reason and then deny it. I wasn’t aware my profile said that, my bad. ??
That particular one I hadn’t thrown my hat into the ring on anyway. I love how only the females are considered worthy of common courtesy. ??
Never good to be reactionary, petty and revel in it. Bodes problems.
Jolanta
Level 9
Feb 5, 2019
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Agreed, but I usually don’t realize it until I’ve already done something regrettable. I’m a work in progress.
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Incidentally, I said I sometimes revel in being a DICK. I wasn’t saying I revel in being reactionary and petty. I’m a dick in other ways that are intentional and even fun. ???
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