It is just you recognize where not to waste your time with those people you may have just met! If you made a mistake in judgement so what you will most likely never interact with them again.

It amazes me how much of our fates are determined by our neurology. If the chemistry is there, it's there.

Thanks folks for taking the time to reply

I don’t blame myself or the other person when our personalities don’t mesh. We’re just not compatible personalities. Some can be similar enough that you can be friendly and some not even that. It’s just how we are made... and then we get into the nurture aspect.

I was always intrigued by the difference between the secular view that if enough people didn't like a person, it meant that person was an asshole, but the spiritual view was that if people didn't like a person, it was because that person was on the right road and the others weren't.

But how to come to any definite conclusion in a society of people who are all different levels of idiosyncracies, emotional baggage etc? If I were to use this forum as a guide to getting on with people, I think getting on is a matter of similar opinion,s and an extra level of getting on is to forge further agreements that certain people are anathema. It might be fair to say that in this regard, we still operate on the level of primitive tribes.

It takes two to tango