If you trust your partner no need to look through phone. What would you be looking for?

I don't have anything to hide, & if there was some practical reason they needed to look at my phone I'd be fine. If I felt they were trying to check up on me, I'd be more concerned about the relationship than angry--they should not be involved with someone they don't trust, right?

& I need a video of the fruit roll-up trick. How much coordination does it take?

Not a phone, computer, pin number, tax info, joint FB, etc. If you need to do that to be in a relationship, you both have trust issues, and probably should not be together. Friend of mine's ex was talking to another guy. He would always be nosy and ask who she is texting, calling, etc. They were both talking to other people.

I also believe in trust in relationships. I was married for 8 and trusted my wife implicitly. That is until one night she fell asleep with her phone in bed and when I came in to go to sleep her phone kept buzzing, someone was texting her repeatedly I picked up the phone to turn it off when it buzzed again. The screen read hey you still there with a heart . I’m not married anyone

I believe in privacy in relationships, which extends to phones, computer accounts, and mail. I've never cheated on a partner, but if they felt I needed to prove my fidelity, I'd be gone. I do need to say, however, that if anything that's left sitting open and out so anyone could see it, I'll probably read it. And I'd expect anyone to do the same. For me, if there isn't trust, there isn't a relationship. I think jealousy says a great deal more about the accuser than the accused. So I'll need to save the roll up attack for other situations.

I have no aversion to anyone flipping through my phone, but DO take issue with my SO wanting or feeling the need to. I am in no way a cheater and would see all kinds of red flags if my SO doesn't know or believe that. Broken trust is almost impossible to repair. I think I would feel very differently toward anyone who so disbelieves in me and my core values.

FWIW - In my own experience, SOs who are so insecure are often hiding THEIR willingness to cheat on ME from me.

I’m dead, laughed til I fell over!

If a partner has so little trust, he/she is done. If he/she tries to coerce, or manipulate me into allowing it: HELL no.

My phone is MINE. My privacy is MINE. My phone, fuckers, is MINE. My fave fruit roll ups are strawberry. I’m ready to roll!

In a good (open, honest and trustworthy) relationship, one should have no objections with sharing the phone's history etc. as there should be nothing not expected on the phone

If you need to look through my phone you have no trust, so go on ahead and text yourself goodbye from it.

There's nothing on my phone that I want to hide. I wouldn't trust someone who had something I wasn't allowed to see.

Spending the next few days practicing the fruit roll up attack. ?

If you have a lock on the phone,why tell her the number? Would you give her your bank account number also? Sure,trust issues,even in a marriage there should be some privacy,I'd think....

In a committed relationship.. if my partner asked to see my phone i would let them..
But i don't know how much longer we would be in a relationship after that.. especially if they had to ask a second time..
That level of mistrust does not belong..

Easier if both sides just communicated

For me, it wouldn't even progress as far as deciding whether I would allow it or not - we'd be having a very serious discussion on the importance of trust and how nobody who trusts their partner would even want to do such a thing. And if that wasn't taken onboard, it'd be goodbye.

(I love the roll-up attack stuff, by the way!)