I also live in a Red state. However, our governor has this to say, "Compared to the first six days of early voting in 2014, Democratic turnout has increased by 69 percent, according to the Dallas newspaper. Republican turnout has increased by 20 percent." He warns that it should "shock every conservative to their core."

I suspect many quiet liberals also live around you. They have been in hiding, but the savage political situation is finally getting them out, including me. I gave up voting long ago, because no one listened to my vote. Now, it will matter again. The future may not be rosy, but we are now in a fight for existence because of Climate Change. Unfortunately, the conservatives see existential military and terrorist threats as greater, and ignore climate change.

Liberals are, I hope, coming together to take control, and work to remove all threats, whether real or imagined. People need to feel safe.

Good luck in your search. I find that there are more members in states that I consider shitty and unlivable (former Confederacy or nearby) than the more liberal, accepting places (like where I am). Is it because this is an escape for the terrible reality outside where there's less of that nonsense here and people are more free to be themselves away from a safe forum like this? Hmmmm....

Happy Hunting. Wish you the best and welcome to our little place.

We are all single. even the siamese twins among us. become comfortable with yourself and focus your efforts there. this way you are prepared whether or not you decide to allow someone else to share your life ... and you'll find yourself more recptive to it. namaste.

Living with Self Righteous mouth breathers is the worst. I seem to attract bat shit crazy, so I am done with relationships. If you ever want to talk Super Heroes or Video Games, I worked in the industry for about 10 years and one of my favorite games was City of Heroes. Best MMO ever. I also like horror flicks and I am always looking for some new show, comic or game. I'm a Nerd.

I also tried many dating sites and was quite disappointed. It seems most guys are only interested in hookups. It would be nice to find a guy who is a real friend with a like-minded world view. I have pretty much given up for a while. I wish you luck. I wish I had some good advice for you as I could use some myself.

Considering I live just south of you in oklahoma I completely agree with you on how hard dating is around here. I've pretty much given up looking until my kids are grown because they have this "evil step-mother" issue with pretty much everyone I've dated.

Good luck finding him.

Good luck on finding a special someone, you seem awesome

It is tough living in the midwest overall and having to deal with the this. You are not alone, that's for sure. You have come to the right place.. lot's of interesting, well educated, and truly heart felt people here looking for either someone special or community connections. Wish you well on finding your hearts desire

I found it difficult to live in Kansas because of the rampant God-fullness and zealotry. Just going to school was the worst experience.

Hard to find good people no matter what your stripes. Just keep on truckin'

Join the club. Since I live in Georgia, I know the chances of finding a "decent" woman is pretty much less than winning the Lottery.

"... isn't just looking for sex..." Oh, why didn't you say so...you are looking for a gay man.

I love in Alaska so the crazy people we get usually stick to themselves. It's much more libertarian up here than it is conservative.

I have that issue with intelligent people around my age that I can communicate with. I communicate better with older women due to the fact that they have a more complete understanding of the world.

It's hard to expand your horizons when for the most part you're forced (I'm assuming) to believe a certain way by the entire community around you. I haven't really been out of fairbanks, AK and I know how that is. I can see the same cycling mindset in most of these people that gets them stuck here. It's easy, I will admit that. It's easy to fit in when everyone wants you to fit in. However, when you don't want to do what everyone else wants you're an outcast.

Personally I don't really date. I don't like wasting my time with someone I'll date for 3-4 months, never develop a real emotional attachment because they don't understand how I talk or think, and then break up. Basically it's like fucking someone until they're done and I don't like that, so if rather be single. Some people aren't like that though. I prefer to wait until I see someone that catches my eye. Then I can go and get a feel for them before I make a decision.

You do have the option of moving - I know - sometimes easier said than done -

I fail on every count.

But welcome to the mad house and I wish you luck in your search - but hope you'll stick around anyways.

We're mostly a friendly bunch.

Plenty of guys that fall into what you look for. Just a matter of time before you find someone that is the right fit for you. Don't get discouraged.

I would suggest Plenty of Fish, POF, for your search, You can filter religion away as well as conservatives People like us exist all over and your village has us in it also. I too, live in a very conservative area, it is central florida and the good book here. But I am well liked and respected for myself,

I also live in a red state as well, I'm finding it hard to date nearly anyone, don't think it would be that hard seeing that I live on the space coast in FL, but alas I've been surrounded by Catholics since I moved here a year ago.

I'm surrounded by them too girl..... And going through the same struggle. It sucks.

Looking for just younger guys, interesting, good luck in your search.