I was on several sites for quite a while, even paid for them for a few months. I didn't notice a difference in quality or quantity when I paid.

I can only offer my experience from a female perspective. I would say 85-90% of the guys were only looking for hookups. Of the other 10-15%, not many were interested in a curvy woman. The few that were generally did not meet my requirement of moderate intelligence and person hygiene. A girl has to have standards.

I am hoping to move a few hours north of where I am now. While I do have friends here, not very many close friends that I would have the opportunity to meet a potential date through. I'm excited to move partly because I have a feeling I'll meet more gentlemen through friends there, that makes me feel better since I will have someone to ask about the guy's character. It's always a bit scary meeting a stranger and not having anyone to confirm that they aren't a player or have some deal breaker type of past.

I have stopped with online dating sites as my experiences have not been good. The last site I belonged to had people, after three or four small conversations, ask me for money. Other experiences I’ve had is meeting people who say they are not married but are, had one man request that I humiliate him, and the first date I had was with a widow who missed his wife so much we spent the entire date crying.

I pay for Fitness Singles and like it.

Free sites like Plenty of Fish and OKCupid are a waste of time.

Some people manage to meet others via the web, but I think it is a waste of time most of the time, because of the distances involved, etc. Better to join a club, meetup.com or something like that, nothing beats meeting people in person.