Well girls are basically taught they're not good enough and women continue to be told that they're not good enough and if they're not so by now, they never will be. Mainly in the form of physical attractiveness.
And that, sir, is a rather awful generalization. I know your words come from a place of pain, but there are plenty of aesthetically pleasing people who are sensitive, empathetic, kind etc - not to mention how subjective attractiveness is.

@Neraven and who exactly teaches girls that they're not good enough? I would say it's men who in general get put down more than women... I had some foolish dreams when I was younger, about being a gamer or such but fortunately I got put down and pursued a more practical career as an electrician.

On a dating site I don't even get a hello. Women get so many compliments that they complain about how it's ''creepy'' to be called beautiful. The other week someone was telling me how it was rude for me to call them cute or sweet. Seriously. I wasn't even called attractive by my former girlfriends.

How come women complain about being ''harassed'' by people who randomly tell them on the street that they're so good looking, yet at the same time women get to say how ''they're not good enough''. That seems to contradict itself.

I don't know about the people who you met but like I said before... I gave up hoping that I'd find a kind-hearted woman. Maybe it will happen, but I don't think it will. I gave up hoping to find a loyal woman... maybe I'll find one. But at least I know I can rely on physical appearance because my feelings for her will not die in a few weeks. It's something that I can rely on.

I don't know why men put emphasis on how a woman looks... but on what else am I supposed to put emphasis on? The chances to meet a woman with similar interests is 1 in a million and besides, I think I should focus on the relationship side rather than interests... I can just make friends to play a video game with me, but I would only be able to cuddle in bed with my girlfriend, no one else. Can only cuddle with her or have sex, things like that. I can talk about a random tv show with any other person on the internet.

Remember, men can't be anywhere nearly as picky as women, dating sites are 99% men 1% women.

Those women that are both very attractive and loyal/kind etc... yeah, a LOT of REALLY GOOD men want them... the competition is fierce and most of guys are average at best. I know I'm not charismatic, I know my worth.

I'm gonna be really blunt for a second and I hope you don't take it the wrong way.

Women don't owe you a reply, believe it or not. A lot of women don't know how to take a compliment because society has warped us into believing we are not good enough unless we look or act a certain kind of way. I've been ignored by both men and women because I appear young/jailbait (I'm 25), so I get how you feel in a sense. I'm glad you can at least admit you're shallow, a lot of men/people in general can't seem to admit their flaws because they're too prideful. There are a lot of good people out there. It just takes getting through the piles of garbage to get to the good stuff.