I've recently cut ties with the bulk of my family, though not over religion, but Brexit. I too have been the black sheep, in their eyes, but to me, I am a white wolf in black sheep clothing,

Its okay -thats why we're here. Many support groups here too.

I was terribly fortunate that my parents came late in life to Christian fundamentalism and were not very good at being selfish assholes, and could not seem to forget the art of minding their own business. So while there was some low-level concern on their part, they zipped their lips and did not give unsolicited advice.

This is vanishingly rare.

So is the way my three older brothers related to me, post-deconversion. Mostly they didn't ask and didn't tell. After Mom and Dad and my oldest brother passed away, bro #2 did finally ask me during a bro-trip the three of us survivors took together, "you don't believe in god anymore, do you?" I said "No". He said "That's too bad" and changed the subject. It was never brought up again, although comically, his wife just thinks I'm "confused" and "going through something" even though it's been 20 years since I darkened the door of a church.

Like I said ... super lucky here. I know a lot of not-so-lucky people who have been rejected and abused in all sorts of baroque ways by their "godly" families. You're definitely not alone.

I hear ya. I lucked out in my immediate family. My 4 siblings and my kids are all liberal and not big into religion. But, living in Pennsyltucky, it's really difficult to go anywhere without everyone praising jeezuz and the antichrist in the white house. And dating...omg, finding someone who isn't a "god fearing man" is like looking for a needle in a haystack. Homophobes, racists, etc.