I learned how to get along and love the woman that I love the best nowadays. Even with her being a Pentecostal pastor and our beliefs being total opposite. I guess we both realized that we could appreciate one another and still believe or not what we do. Glad to be one of the lucky ones that hasn’t been thrown in the lake of fire by my mother. ????
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Welcome neighbor in Slidell!
For me, having different religious belief in relationship extremely hard to do -- and ended up being impossible for em. So, congrats to you and your partner!
I cannot help but be curious how she would feel about your being open to hookups? LOL! Or do you have a different definition than of hookups than most? I certainly cannot imaging a Pentecostal pastor being open to polyamory.....??
BlueWave
Level 8
Mar 6, 2018
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Blue. That’s my mom not my partner haha. But I don’t think my mom would like to read my profile either. 
Too funny. Because it relates to her mental health in that she values you so little that she's prepared for you to be burned.
GoldenDoll
Level 7
Mar 6, 2018
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I don’t think she’s prepared. I think it’s more fear of her lord. (Which I always found a lil suspicious. Even as a believer.) How would the greatest love ever would want us to submit to it?
@Cwag515 - That's how religion operates - fear. And god so loved the world that he invented hell. When my son got converted to christiinsanity by his wife, I asked him the same question, and he said he didn't like to think about it, but he was hoping for a death-bed conversion (for me). To not be prepared for the consequences of believing such crap, is a sure sign of the lazy way out in life.
I know but I love my mother and I understand the way she feels. I rather her believe the way she wants and is have a good relationship. After all this is the life I’m concerned bout.@GoldenDoll
@Cwag515 - I understand. It's a really hard situation. Best wishes.
Sounds like you see each other as a person, that holds certain beliefs. Not requiring each other to think alike! I would like to hope that I do the same, with all people that I love! But, I may not be perfect at that, yet! I applaud you both and may you have a long life together!
Freedompath
Level 9
Mar 5, 2018
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Thank you much. For the most my family is accepting of me and my lack of beliefs. I’m glad.
Watch out, is all I have to say. I guess my ex-wife and I were quite along in years 14 years ago, and were so desperate to get married and have a family that we put aside our differences in religion, philosophy, and politics to get married. I valued the diversity, and wanted to be able to discuss our differences. She was always uncomfortable with the idea that I didn't believe as she did, and thus avoided these subjects like the plague. Finally, after having our two kids and she being able to co-mingle the considerable amount of more wealth I had brought into the marriage, she filed for divorce, citing "irreconcilable differences", those differences being religion, philosophy, and politics. When I protested, saying she said that she accepted me and my differences, and admitted that I had not changed, she told me that she thought she could change me, and realized later that it would not happen. I'm thinking this latest revelation is about as phony as her wedding vows. The marriage to me was just a big and sophisticated fraud to get my sperm and money so as to better her own life. And not just the marriage, but I've been partially thrown out of my own family (kids).
Ouch. It really, really hurts.
GlyndonD
Level 7
Mar 5, 2018
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I am sorry to hear how your marriage worked out. As a divorced parent with 55-60 yr old children, please make every moment with your children mean something good, as children love both parents and never caused the break-up in the first place. They do hurt from the split-up of their own family dreams...my children will report hurtful events even to this day! Work to make good memories, as all of you, will be glad when you are in old age!
People change, but they change themselves. Never think you will change your partner (on purpose)
Sometimes you just change as you learn and grow.
Life is dynamic, not static.
But as we change, we should keep our integrity, and not take from the other person in order to profit from the divorce. She shouldn't have punished me and rewarded herself for her breaking of the marriage contract. She believes she's a saint, and will be going to heaven despite her sacraments and unjustified breaking of her wedding vows. In reality, she's just a piece of shit.
How do you feel about her believing you'll burn in hell if you don't believe?
GoldenDoll
Level 7
Mar 5, 2018
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She doesn’t mention it. I know she believes it and it’s affraid for my soul. But why should I even give that thought the time?
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