What you are looking for is a UU gathering. They meet every Sunday and most are humanist and atheist. So stop the envy and just go to one. Personally I find people wear me down and the company of my dog is enough. Of course I'm in pain all the time and that is stimulation in itself.

if there are enough sceptics, it would be nice to see a network of free from religion coffee shops across the world, even if they only open Sundays.. Sadly though, organizing sceptics is like trying to herd cats, so it is probably not going to happen.

i don't envy them. b/c deep down i know that they know they are all living a lie.

Universal Unitarian churches can fill that void. Here in Tidewater Virginia we have a local Skeptics/Atheists group that's pretty active as well.

I'm certain that - even if you can't find something you like - there are others who would join you if you started a group yourself.

They are out here. Community and congregation are very important to some people.

Alice’s Restaurant

You can start one all by yourself.

In the UK there are lots of interest groups you can join and make friend through,but it might be different in the US. Joining an evening class can be good for community and also a political party.

Once in a while I'm tempted to walk across the street to the Episcopalian church and cadge a free breakfast on Sunday morning. I bet they have pancakes...

Check into local Unitarian Universalists. I believe in no God, but I will happily spend time with like minded, free thinking Unitarians.

That’s what everyone is wired to need beyond our biological imperatives, a community. A lot of us find it here in certain groups, but it does help to have a local community. You could try attending universalist Unitarian services (which from what I hear is usually a nondenominational humanist meeting). If there are any Satanic Temple (not Church of) branches near you check out their events too (left leaning politically active atheists with a good sense of humor).

Theres the church of bacon in Vegas for atheists, penns Sunday school (a podcast, watch live on twitch Sunday 3 EST), there’s Dudism if you’re into the Big Lebowski, and Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster although you mostly have to find those communities online too. I would visit Buddhist ashrams if I had one nearby.

My favorite way to find community is probably in the pub related arts though. Find a local music or comedy scene, open mic, pool tournament, bowling or trivia night n dive into any scene or hobby that seems to draw the cooler people in your area to hang out with.

I know what you mean! Communal tea parties, a singalong, home made jam. It’s just the content that gets in the way!