At the very least, it would alert to woman as to what I would be looking for in a woman and relationship. If that is not what she wanted, all well and good. I would also be observing her behavior if we saw each other again and making my assessments.

@wordywalt I am just being contrary...

I remember the days when I admired guys who came right out and just asked me if I wanted to fuck...sure beat playing the stupid game for two hours or more...

@thinktwice nihilistic?

@AnggelloDlivio the behavior or the person? You are going to have to be a bit more explanatory...

@thinktwice i was asking, if your philosophy its nihilism?

@AnggelloDlivio Not at all...I am a pragmatist...

I strongly disagree that direct honesty is or tends to be brutal. It does not have to be and should not be. Give a person credit for possible good judgment and civility.

Are you kidding?

@racocn8 No way. As an example, my eldest daughter had not been a serious student in high school. When she finally did go to college she was taking her first English course. She wrote per first paper. My wife showed it to me , and it was very poorly written.

I told my daughter that the paper was very poor, but that if she would work with me, we could make it good. Then I went over the problems with the paper one by one, asking her, "Now, what can be do to improve this> I used the paper to teach her the basic principles of writing and had her use the principles on the spot. She got an "A" on the paper and became a good r She credits my direct and honest feedback and help for teaching her to write. She was not angry or hurt.

There are times when a direct speech is the most kind and helpful. Y If you say otherwise, you are dead wrong.

I put my name as part of this statement.

@wordywalt if my fat wife, ask me if she is fat, how i supposed not to be dishonest, for the best of all the group?

@AnggelloDlivio If my wife had become overweight, I would tell her that, for her health, public image, and self-concept, she needs to loose weight and that I would help her to do so.

I beg to differ. It would take a woman with great character and inner strength to address that question without getting bent out of shape. I learned from my first marriage the difference between shallow, self-absorbed pretty women and women of strength and character. I have never made that mistake again.

A women who acted in such a manner would be betraying her lack of civility and character.

As I think about it, if I had invited a lady to dinner in a sincere effort to determine if there were sufficient mutual grounds for pursuing the possibility of an ongoing relationship, and that lady threw a glass of wine my face for asking the sincere question I stated above, she would regret having shown such crudely uncivil and disrespectful behavior. I Without thinking, would have dumped her place of food into her lap and walked out, leaving her to pay the bill.

That you don't recognize your question as an insult is very telling. That you would respond to an aggressive gesture with an even more aggressive one, especially to someone probably at a physical disadvantage to you, is even more so. That you would consider inviting someone somewhere and then deliberately leave them possibly financially stranded and also possibly in actual physical danger for that same reason is inexcusable.

Good. I would want to waste my time with that person, anyway.