In my older years, I do so much for those that i love and care about. I often wonder, which one of them will take care of me, when I'm incapable?
My son picked out my nursing home when he was 12
When my kids were about that age, my oldest told me she would take care of me, my youngest was building a home behind our house and would always be next to me and my middle daughter told me I could live in her garage, lol. I have some options.
"You will never be homeless, Mom," my daughter Claire said. "You can always live us (Claire and her husband Matt)."
That was sweet.
I certainly wouldn't count on anyone being able to help...learn what resources are available in your area and know that, more than likely, even if you are quite independent and in good health, there are good people who make a living helping the elderly. The office of aging and even community services have resources.
I think the biggest disappointment for people is believing that their kids will help...many can't...don't put that burden on them.
I worry (somewhat) about the same problem. If I'm ever rendered incapacitated I'll need to rely on some friends.