There's not some metaphysical structure (call it "your heart" ) that just "falls" in love. Love isn't physics or metaphysics. It's a dynamic.
@Huskygirl4ever I disagree. Just because your "rational mind" doesn't understand what and how the rest of your brain works, doesn't mean that things it does, just happen
@Huskygirl4ever not understanding your choices, doesn't mean they "just happened". My opinion. You're more in control of your life, than you th8nk.
It's a brain thing and I agree with HG. It just happens or it doesn't. If folks really had control the divorce rate would not be nearly as high, as we would fall in love with people that are a more logical fit.