"Gets" me. Don't know how else to describe it. You just feel like you fit.

Like me for exactly who I am...Oh, and be an orphan with no known relatives living in the Western Hemisphere. I'm pretty much okay with anything else.

Its good to have hard "nos" but you should never have hard "yeses". This looks an awful lot like one of those profile "looking for" lists on match or whatever, but rephrased to be pop-psychology compliant. Hmmm... maybe admin can add this list to the questions on this site. Then we will all agree on a whole bunch of stuff, all match a little bit more, and feel that much less unique. I mean, who doesn't want a partner who aides their growth process?

Plays an instrument, sings like an angel and smells faintly of vanilla.

Likes me for who I am . Non judgemental. Not materialistic. Likes sex especially with me .good sense of humor and appreciate my weird sense of humor. Reasonably attractive. NOT a trumper. Enjoys living

Highly intelligent.

Treats me with kindness and respect.

Physically fit with a healthy lifestyle.

Great sense of humor.

Good conversationalist.

Also loves hiking.

Those are all positive things, but you have no way of becoming aware of them until you have at least met the person several times in person for dates or meetings. Trading messages with them or even talking on the phone are still so indirect and impersonal that they really won't provide you any clues about these issues. Most people won't commit enough time and effort to seeing you with online dating until they have already decided from those initial screening phases like trading messages, phone calls, and a few in person dates or meetings that you are a keeper and someone they could see having sex with. In a nutshell, most people will be too guarded and not give you enough data to evaluate these issues until you have already dated them a few months and are in an exclusive relationship. So, to find out these things, it won't happen in the first place unless both they and you have become invested enough to date steadily for a while and make it exclusive. Either a mutually serious investment or no opportunity to find out this stuff about someone. By that time, most people are too emotionally invested to notice the red flags if they come up that late.

“Listens to you talk when you have issues” and at all other times.

These are good !