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How inportant is a close personal relationship with a sex partner

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ShadowAmicus 8 Aug 2
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Tough question...that depends on the level of commitment and the type of sex. Recreational sex requires no personal relationship.

lerlo Level 8 Sep 1, 2019
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Depends on my objective at whatever phase of life I'm in ...

I do so like a woman who keeps her options open

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I personally can't have sex without becoming attached. So, it may start out in a casual way, but if it continues for any length of time, and I want it to continue, I begin to become attached. I suppose this is due to brain chemistry, which increases greatly during times of intimacy. Once this happens, I believe my brain is changed in some way, either by forging new connections, or by becoming addicted to the chemicals. I don't know. I am undergoing such a relationship at the moment; it is dangerous for my well being, due to certain circumstances, and I don't know how to stop it. :'( Christians might say "turn it over to God", but an agnostic like me has to live with this attachment in every cell in my brain, and it's very tough.

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I won't enjoy sex unless I can trust my partner. Trust doesn't just happen, it has to be built.

Deb57 Level 8 Aug 2, 2019
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I have to at least like the person I am having sex with...as a sapiosexual, it is hard to enjoy sex without at an intellectual connection.

I am going to choose very important because without a close personal relationship, sex would not be happening...it does not mean that I am committed except when I am with my partner.

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Varies with the individual

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I think how important it is, is the individual's call.

Some can experience great sex with people they're not emotionally attached to, or with whom they don't feel a strong mental connection.

For others, like me, one may need to really like and or care for someone, to have sex.

Some have called me a prude, but they miss the importance of really trusting the person who's doing you upsidedown while hanging from a zipline.

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In a general sense, relationship is not a prerequisite for sex. However, for certain individuals, it very much IS. If the question was directed toward me, personally, a close relationship is needed before I consider getting physical. Conversely, physical attraction is needed up front for me to feel romantic toward someone.

Zster Level 8 Aug 2, 2019
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Sex can be anything from a moment of shared pleasure between two people who want nothing more from each other to an expression of love between two people who have been exclusively together for a long period of time.

So long as both parties are honest with themselves and each other regarding what they want from the relationship, it’s a personal choice which shouldn’t be mandated by any government or religious organization beyond punishment for the use of coercion or harrassment to gain sexual Congress with another.

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There is "sex"...And then there is "sex in a relationship."

Nothing beats sex with someone you love and trust. I believe they call that making love!

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My right hand and I are pretty close!

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