Sexual attraction runs along a spectrum, everyone is different and none is more or less inferior. I consider myself a demisexual/sapiosexual; at one time I used to think there was something wrong with me because of this, but I've since grown to appreciate it. Also doing some research about it has helped put my fears and judgments to rest. It doesn't mean I'm less sexual or that I'm less attracted to people, just that my attraction grows more from an emotional connection. Because if I have that connection and the attraction is mutual, believe me, I'm all in.

To me, they both kinda run paralelle, theres sooo much diversity in this werld that its almost impossible for me to label anything, soons i label something,anything, boom, i get proven wrong in my own mind, sooo to end all this endless bach n forth in my mind, i have just let go of defineing anything and just let things grow and be as be,lol kinda like it is what it is, and when the question comes up what iis it? It just is. Hope u are well my friend, ive been kiked off fb, it is what it is,lol

The thing is, what you are describing when you talk about respect and concern and caring for one another pertains to elements which should apply to all relationships, regardless of whether that relationship is sexual in nature or not. These are things which should be given to another individual automatically until such time as they prove themselves no longer worthy.

If one goes through life automatically entering in to relationships presuming that the other individual is unworthy of respect, concern and care until they prove themselves to be, they’ll have a hard enough time finding friends. Let alone sex partners.

People are going to come in to everyone’s life who will do them wrong. That’s just the risk one takes by putting themselves out there. The up side of giving respect, concern and care up front is that you get to more easily and assuredly weed out those who prove themselves wanting and keep around the ones who don’t.

It goes without saying that this also applies to sex partners. If one goes through life waiting for that one person they THINK won’t end up giving them the run around, they’ll always find an excuse to avoid physical closeness with another human being and will probably waste away their years of peak sexual prowess alone.

So in the long run it’s just best to roll the dice and put one self out there. You’ll roll snake eyes more often than not, but the times you wind up rolling sevens makes the risk worth taking.

Henry Miller spoke on this very topic interviewed in the movie : " R E D S ".....he was defending Louise Bryant in love with both Jack Reed and Eugene O'Neill....."the romantic quality of fucking" back then "seems absent nowadays" between partners of 1970's

There is nothing unusual in this ....why do I think that it is being used as a pejorative term. Women in particular are wired to be emotionally invested in a potential mate before becoming interested in having a sexual relationship. There are naturally some women who do not fit this profile, but I would say the majority do. This is not the case with the majority of men, they are more inclined to want to have sex without emotional ties, again following their natural inclination to mate and reproduce as often as possible. That is where the expression “men think with their dicks” comes from.

I agree with all your conclusions.