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Take care of yourself first

Heidi68 8 Aug 20
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My stance for many years is its better to be single and lonely than together and miserable with the wrong person. The time we are blessed with on this Earth is very finite. Time spent in a bad relationship is time wasted finding the right one. You cannot find the love you deserve if you are giving attention to a dead-end relationship. Once you become the person you want to meet wants to find, you will find yourself in the right place to find the person who is right for you.

At the end of the day, what matters is that we VALUE and LOVE the people that are in our lives. It's essential to learn that happiness is more than just a feeling. It is also a choice and the result of a series of choices. We have to choose to appreciate and love those around us. It's important to know that you and only you can make yourself happy. As my wonderful saint of a Mom drilled into me and my siblings many times over the years, "No one can give you happiness. Your happiness must come from within!! How can you expect to make someone else happy if you are not happy yourself?"

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Really . You will be with yourself a lifetime . Learn early how to.care for You .

GEGR Level 7 Aug 20, 2019

But many do not. They believe they have to be in a relationship. They never learn who they are, they never learn how to take care of themselves. Especially women, who are constantly told they are suppose to get married, have 2 kids & live happily ever after.

@Heidi68 Really, I know at least 10 Young Women who are with Fucking Guys who Refuse to get a job ! They have bought into the fallacy that they Must be with a Guy . It is like watching a slow motion Train Wreck .

@slydr68 that is my point - many (not all) women are brought up with the fairy tale pounded into every aspect of their lives. They are not taught to take care of themselves first, so they have no idea how to respond in relationships.
@GEGR a train wreck is exactly right

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Thankfully, having been alone now for almost 15 years, I’ve found the same thing. Not having everything you want to do become a debate and always being wrong? Don’t miss them at all.

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