there is no set time. i can't tell you when you're ready. i happen to know that in judaism, the grieving period has a deadline: 11 months. the reason for this is that a whole year seems excessive. i guess if you were going to set a deadline that would make sense, but i don't know that setting a deadline is wise to begin with. also in judaism, one doesn't place the headstone UNTIL 11 months have passed, because less than that is considered NOT enough. again, free of such rules, one relies on one's individual feelings. i do not have the experience i think you want in order to advise, but i think even if i did, my experience wouldn't necessarily set a timeline for yours. i can tell you it took a long time to get over the death of my best friend in 1997, and the terrible circumstances of our parting not long before his death (which could not have been predicted). he wasn't my lover, but my heart had to heal somewhat before i could let myself fall in love, or at least that is what i think happened. i still miss him, but i am in love, and have been with my fiance for 19 years now (we can't afford to get married; we will lose the benefits that keep us alive). so it can be a while. sorry that's not more specific. i don't think specificity is possible. you are you. all i can offer is the seemingly lame but i think accurate "you'll know."

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I just got out of what became a pretty toxic relationship. So as I can only speak for me personally. I'm staying away from relationships for awhile. In fairness, a large part of this is I have some pretty big plans for myself. And adding a romantic relationship would only tend to inhibit that goal. If I had to speak in generalities. The best I could say is this. When you feel it's right, then you'll know. Saying this, I mean when you're ready to share all that you are with another person. Not just work to fill an emotional or sexual void. I mean no disrespect here in saying this. Just seen many people do just this. Myself included, and only make another bad decision in the process.

Are you serious! I've bin married 3/1/2 times! You wanna talk about grief! In what context? I say when yer ready, then you will know! I can't tell you.

I’d say, they’d want you to be happy, definitely if they thought the same about life