We must teach our children to be kind and to warn them that if you punch a bully in the face he or she will likely come back with a gang and put you in hospital. Bullies are a social problem that society must take seriously and deal within early life and stop promoting violence in the home as a good thing. Oh and also NOT all bullies are boys or men women have and are bullies too.

We must teach our sons and daughters to prefer peace, war is not exciting or easy or something to be glorified or wished for in oder to make armaments profits. Teach this to all people and deal with those deranged enough to think otherwise BEFORE they become a problem. The enemy of violence is not more violence it is education.

There is still darkness in this world true but the answer of to darkness is not to cover it in another layer of gun and bomb smoke. offense being the best defense is a dangerous myth. You teach the coming generations to see the value in peace, and mutual cooperation.

The responsibility to raise intelligent and compassionate people lays with the parent or parents of all people as members of a justly governed society that values people more than profits.

Part one.
This will sound harsh to say in the modern world where the once downtrodden female is at last beginning to show power. With this I mean those superb ladies who are succeeding in raising families, working jobs and living lives without husbands. I do not mean to detract from their achievements, but as a social scientist I will look at lots of evidence to try and produce a balanced observation on why male role models are necessary for male children.
When first studying into American family life back in 2016, I was shocked to see that 72% of African-American families were ‘broken’. I had to check and recheck these figures and have my lecturer sign off on them. At the time we were studying the disparity which sits within the American educational system. And what we were seeing in a social context was the strengthening of family groups from American Asians including those from the Indian subcontinent and Pakistan, a loosening of ties within the American European communities, but still fairly solid nuclear families, to in recent times the total destruction of integral family units within the African-American communities.
What we began to see is where small family units no longer have a male role model, the males come from these family units no longer see being a role model to their offspring as being important anymore. Indeed, it would appear to be fashionable for young African-American males to make as many babies as many different women as possible without seeing any consequences to their acts. This academic year I will be studying more deeply into this and how inner-city culture but only from North America but Europe as well, is spreading new cultural norms on families.
Being a student of social sciences, I look at things not only from a sociological perspective, but as a psychologist as well. There have been many studies carried out indicating the importance of immediate social role models. Males have a tendency to follow the activities and behaviours of their fathers, and females to their mothers and aunties. Social sciences is a mixed discipline degree course, and so I can look at the micro aspects of individual psychology and the macro perspectives of sociology and how the two are entwined inescapably with each other.
Society itself requires direction, whether we be tiny hunter gatherer groups the get-together a few times a year or huge metropolises crammed with millions of people. Without some form of order and established societal qualities norms and values, supported by laws and governed with authority chaos will prevail.

Had kids, and both volunteered & worked in schools. What they face on a daily basis most of us don’t. We get to pick & choose our friends, neighborhoods, activities and jobs.

Our youth face it all, and to expect them to handle it all is too much. Even when eventually figuring much out … correcting, even navigating the sad realities of life will remain too much; as it is for us..

I raised daughters ..and seemed a magnet to boys. They simply want and need the recognition that - what they’re up against is hard. They understand the need for kindness, and thanks to our school systems and social evolution, they’ve come a long way from my days at their age..

It’s not as much ‘you teach them,’ but that you lead by example, and explain as you can... Laying too much on them is what the world does, you often need only to be there.

Some of what I will be writing on this subject will not appear 'politically correct'. Please bear with me on that.

I was talking with my daughter about this yesterday. The 'broken' families of the 21st century are now becoming more common and we in the western world are reaping the effects now.