I see so many write about their hobbies . What do you expect to get from a relationship , and what are you willing to contribute to a relationship ?
I care, and I pay attention. I would hope to exchange emotional and physical intimacy.
Listing hobbies is a fine way to tell others what you expect from a relationship, and can communicate what you bring to it as well ~ if done properly, and honestly. Like photos in a gym, hiking in the woods, mountain biking, etc: I like to know he's active and fit, that he leads a healthy lifestyle (outdoorsy folks tend not to be crackheads) but I don't need a weekend warrior or someone who constantly has to be "doing something". Be honest about your golf habit, your relationship with your fishing buddies, and where you are on the scale of Gym-Rattiness: these are hobbies that can take up a LOT of someone's time.
So I expect honesty, literacy, humor, and balance ~ I think I'm looking for someone a lot like me!
I would be concerned that they intend to spend 100% of their non woring hours out having fun while shoving all of the chores off on you .
A friend
A companion
Someone that I can talk about anything with or just sit quietly together with saying nothing
Someone to cook for.
Someone to travel with me
Someone to make plans with.
A partner in crime.
A lover.
Excellent reply . You've been thinking this out .
@Cast1es I've had all of my life to think about this.
Loving companionship, lively conversation and emotional support given and received. If I can’t get at least the same level of attention and affection I got from my cat, it’s not worth having.
Agreed !
The only thing I expect in a relationship is to be excepted for who I am, with no ifs, ands, or buts. I will do the same. Other than that I have no expectations, because every relationship I have been in, has been unique in it's own way, because the women were each unique in their own way. That doesn't mean there aren't adjustments to be made by both parties.
Accepted , Hon ?
Recently heard that a relationship requires giving up half of yourself … including my healthy hobbies ..I can’t decide which half I’d let go..
I’d expect to lose a lot of freedom, and gain a possible companion. If history predicts future behavior ...I’d contribute far more than I’d receive
I sometimes thing everyone feels they put more in than they get back .
As I wrote in my profile:
I'm seeking an athletic, intelligent man with a great sense of humor who treats me with respect and kindness. Shared recreational activities are a bonding experience for couples. That's why I want a man who also loves hiking, and only shoots with a camera.
Although I'm a great cook, I'm not willing to do all of the meal planning, preparation and cooking. Everyone loves the magic words: "Dinner is served."
Loving relationships work best when we add a certain spirit, an attitude of goodwill. I wouldn't know a grudge if it mugged me. I miss the tender touch, laughter, conversation, intimacy, teamwork and fun of a committed, loving relationship.
That certain spirit! Indeed.