I make this share for all to comment on whether a confidently balanced member of an ongoing relationship, a single person or a bitter twisted divorcee (divorcee or member of a family relationship, employment, religious fraternity or law court experience and judgement) who has weeded the truth from the lies possibly being left feeling mentally "raped" by the separation and anulment process:
"Messages that are honest tend to have higher accuracy than messages that are not honest. If a message is true, there is a better chance an individual would be able to accurately detect that it is true and not a lie."
[en.m.wikipedia.org]
Also when I share the above with you, do you believe that I honestly ask the above questions or believe the Professor's conclusion is true?
Run, don't walk, away as fast as you can.
There are too many decent people out there to waste your time with some bozo.
Good lies are 95% or more true and 5% or less false. So a good lie is NOT easily detected. Probably, you would have to verify most of it to find the false part.
I watch their words and their actions, when those are congruent great. When they are not there is at least one lie, maybe more. Keep in mind they could be lying to themselves and passing that lie on to others. For example, they say they eat healthy, but the only thing they can “cook” is cereal. They are lying to themselves and everyone else.
That also highlights another type of truth... using words that have no real fixed meaning like "healthy". There are lots of cereals that are considered "healthy" relative to other cereals, but none are considered healthy compared to veggie soup. And eating cereal thats healthy, more than once a day, isnt healthy. Etc....
But still, its easier to believe something is good if were told its healthy, even if theres no real definition of the word.