How have YOU escaped the trap of loneliness?
I’m one of about 700 in a veterans retirement and convalescent home and am in good health. We’re all sheltering in place but I’m in several classes and a Toastmasters club. There are a few non-theists here. I tell the many theists I’m an atheist and they don’t mess with me.
I live in a share house and, (usually), enjoy my own company.
I am never lonely, I find myself good company, as is my little dog. Plus I belong to an 9ver-60 Singles Social Club where any Member can suggest activities. Plus Karaoke, i see familiar faces wherever i go to sing.
Plus, I learned in my marriage of 33 years that the absolute most lonely you can feel is when the person who is supposedly "with" you is actually checked-out. Alone is not necessarily lonely!
Couldn’t agree more! I’d rather be lonely and alone than lonely in a bad relationship. Any day.
@Seeker3CO I have never heard the term "vacant marriage" before, and it is spot on! Hugs!
As a Deaf person fluent in ASL - and written English --- it's an extremely isolating life. Even within the Deaf communities --- there are more and more elite Deafies that wants nothing to do with down to earth types. On top of that, religious deaf folks that are always trying to convert non-religious types. Rub it in that 99.9% of society does NOT know American Sign Language fluently.... I'm surprised I'm still sane. I look for down to earth folks who are learning ASL; hidden Deaf folks who knows sign language but they're hard to convince to socialize due to their lack of trust of other elite deafies; volunteer work; my dog - my fur-son is my constant companion and be really patient in hope someone nice will come along to truly connect.
I do hope you find someone lovely who is fluent in ASL, they must be out there. All the best.
@girlwithsmiles Thank you, appreciate your kind words.
I haven't. I can handle not being in a relationship, but it is not very rewarding not having someone to share thoughts, ideas, and experiences with. Friends are friends, but it ain't the same.
It’s not exactly the same I agree...but after not being in a relationship for some years now, I find that I have reached a state of contentment and equilibrium in my own abilities and decision making, which in the past I may have felt I needed to share and discuss with my husband. I can’t say I ever really feel lonely, but do often feel sad that my husband is no longer there to share new experiences and reminisce about old ones.
Depends on the kid of loneliness. One has to work hard in not being a part of my local community especially when one lives on the north end. Often people come just for a chat. However, having someone special and personal is still missing. Thing is, ,you get used to it and it's not so bad.