Poll: Can we not have questions directed at one group or another without the other non-requested opinions getting upset?
This came up recently and it was complained that because the post requested to only hear from one gender and not everyone that the post was sexist. I disagree. I've seen post here asking for opinions from men not women, from women not men, from agnostics not atheist... and so on.
I don't have a problem with this. I might post my opinions because it is an open forum after all but I don't get all namey-cally just because they made a requesting post that did not include me.
What say the all?
It’s always possible to ignore the post as there is no compulsion to respond.
Besides, someone can always respond “as a man” “as a Buddhist” “as a lop-eared rabbit”
It allows for input while declaring a position outside of the requested sample set. The response can also be ignored by the poster.
I didn’t vote, because I feel that all people should be responsible enough to any reply within condescending those with differing thoughts (I’m not perfect though
I guess the yeas have it, by the slightest of margins LOL
Entire proposition seems a tad B&W fallacy to me.
Suppose that a woman wants to ask a question of men, but another woman feels so differently about the topic themselves that they feel obligated to respond?
Or vice versa?
Why not create a third option? One which will sort the target audience from the rest, so others could respond but it would be in a side thread and not detract from the OP?
@MichaelSpinler Curious Phrase there "daring to be a man"
Is that to say that your IDEAL of what manhood is varies so greatly from others idea of what Manhood is that you get ofended or others get offended by what you are calling your manhood?
(I would likely call that you presentation or personal;ity (not manhood).
I have never needed to DARE to be male, it was just a fact of life.
So I do not think that is what you mean, I THINK something you expressed was seen as not so good by others, BUT YOU see that as a "proper" man, which is disallowed?
What did you mean by that phrase there Mike?
@MichaelSpinler Thanks, I was just puzzled by the term.
@MichaelSpinler Answering a question is really not sexist, it would definitely depend on the answer given.
Can we have a contest for the most awkwardly worded sentence??
@NoPlanetB I’m sorry I couldn’t help myself. My bad
I chose "directing questions to certain people or groups is fine" as my answer for two reasons.
First, in the case of this particular post, this is a poll and it's common to address polling questions to particular demographics, although this one does not.
And two, all posts directed to particular groups are not inherently discriminatory and should not automatically be judged as such without challenge. For example, I may post to my Astronomy or LGTBQ groups without discriminating against anyone. Or someone may belong to a "tight knit" crochet group and address a post to only them.
That's not to say a post may not go on to become discriminatory, but in such cases where there is no legally discriminatory language (racial bias, hate speech and so on) the post must be allowed if we are to participate in a free society.
Finally, calling a crochet group, "tight knit" is another good example of non-discriminatory speech that must remain FREE and available for use.
it really depends on the topic. i don’t really get offended, but i always find it a little funny when people ask a question that could be answered by anyone attracted to men and specifically direct it at women. so there are some situations when i would say there are unnecessary lines being drawn, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t ever seek opinions from a specific group of people.
@NoPlanetB it used to bother me more, but at this point, i kind of get it. there are times when i forget that a straight perspective exists, focused on my own point of view and relating to the people in my friend circle, who are all in the lgbtqa+ community. i can see how it would be even easier to fall into that way of thinking when, as an example, movies featuring characters who share your sexuality aren’t considered an entirely separate genre lol
Not sure how admin could stop it without individually pulling selected posts. I think they would do that by default if a poll was offensive.
As far as the poll you are mentioning, it was a little frustrating to me, but nothing troubling enough to form further restrictions.