Prejudices are interesting things--there are socially acceptable prejudices and socially unacceptable ones. In my lifetime I have seen prejudices based or race and sexual preference shift from being acceptable to being unacceptable--which does not mean they have gone away, it has just shifted them into the shadows of polite society. prejudice due to someone's lack of religion is still an acceptable form or prejudice. One test is that one can succeed as a black candidate or a gay candidate, but openly atheist candidates pretty much have no chance. It is also acceptable to be prejudiced against polyamorous folk in a similar way that it used to be acceptable for a guy to fear his gay guy friend would hit on him. Another one I have experienced--I often play in bars--is against older men. I sit at a bar and say hi to the person next to me--if it is a young woman, you would be amazed at how often they will turn to their friend and say something like, "ooh, creepy". Seemingly open, liberal women who identify themselves as feminists will pretty much always defend these women, saying they have a reason, it is justified. Well, growing up in the south, folks who will not hire blacks will always say it is not because of their prejudice, but because of some past experience--someone did not show up for work, so they are justified. Anyone experience other forms of socially acceptable prejudices?
I once worked for a guy who owned a newsagent, off license and general dealer who had to beg an employee who was Indian by birth to leave his employ because the local ignorant people boycotted the shop until he got rid of the "P@>i".
He was not prejudice, but did have a family to support and so had to undergo humiliation and heart break to save his business by asking her to leave and when she would not he had to fire her.
From that time on he did not dare hire anyone who was not white, but sold the shop as soon as he could.
The irrational prejudice of some people is horrific and unfounded.
We are all prejudiced by necessity because none of us has the whole picture. For that reason I try not to be judgmental when I see what seems like prejudice—it’s just that the person’s experiences are different than mine. Sometimes I screw up and get defensive, as when someone is running down the South. That defensiveness comes from deeply seated stuff that I don’t fully understand.
In my younger days I sometimes had that very experience of being snubbed by woman at a bar. Only about a fourth of the women would smile and engage in pleasant conversation. Oddly, as I think back, nearly every one who so responded was of Irish ancestry. Am I prejudiced here?
@DavidDuhon Excellent analysis! I agree wholeheartedly with your optimistic assessment. Only through experience and knowledge do we grow out of prejudice.