My best friend always has told me it's better to love someone a little better than they love you. I just got out of a relationship in which I loved someone more than they loved me. It was heartbreaking. Before that, though, the guy I was dating loved me more than I loved him. The brain chemistry of attraction is a fascination for me. I wish there were some magic potion to make it mutual. When it happens once in a while, it's astonishing and satisfies every longing there is, probably at the DNA level.

In love with me, will always return love in kind and they will never hurt you on purpose

If it's not a two way street, I won't take it. It doesn't matter which side of a one sided relationship someone is on both sides loose. To be loved and not love breeds contempt over time and Don Quixote aside loving from afar eventually ends in bitterness and sometimes hatred.

I would prefer someone to be in love with me. I like to think of myself as a person who tries not to take advantage of others, therefore I will have the other person's feelings in mind regardless of me not being in actual love. Bu

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it is often the person who cares the least who has the most power in the relationship. Therefore by being the person whose love is unrequited, it sets me up for all kinds of emotional problems I am not willing to endure.

I spent quite a lot of money and time seeing a therapist I was besotted with, didn't get anywhere with her in any respect!

It seems the men I am interested in aren't interested in me and vice versa. I am honestly feeling that I will never have a love-love relationship.

Love is a ephemeral notion.

I have never had the former happen, though I was more into someone as a person, than he was in to me (long story, don't date a narc). So no, I have never been in love with someone that didn't love me but I was more invested in someone emotionally than they were me. Yes the latter has happened to me.... it is an uncomfortable situation when you are trying to date someone and someone from your past comes back to declare their love for you. And I have had someone want to date me that I had no interest in romantically. IT is an uncomfortable and awkward thing but it can be navigated tactfully and delicately. I'd opt for neither!! ;D heh

Given only those two options without a mutual relationship, I would choose none of the above.

I have been in a few relationships where the female expressed traumatic hurt when I failed to develop a similar emotional tie to them as a future (I thought you were the one" partner. I find their hurt most painful.

As for falling in love with someone who did not share the mindset? Depends on how you define "fallen in love?" If you define "Falling in love" as willing to sacrifice opportunities and resources in an attempt to help another above my own well-being. Yes. If you include an expectation that this decade long relationship will flourish into a mutually beneficial outcome? No.

Both suck. Probably equally.

Sometimes people drift in different directions. If it happens to you and you see no way out just let it go. Otherwise someone is going to become a statistic. You cannot force love or togetherness.

Very long time ago

Always

I will not be a pest loving anyone who won't love me

How could I not love she who loves me ?

Neither alternative is acceptable. That said, I would rather be the one in love because I can control myself. You can't control a stalker, and love can quickly turn to hate in such people.

I’ve had each of those, in my 3 marriages.
First one, we were crazy about each other, inseparable...til we weren’t. It burned hot but fast.
Second marriage was convenience on my part; he was very in love with me. Over time, we grew apart and at different speeds.
Third time, I reconnected with my first real boyfriend from college. Definitely, I loved him the most, to begin with. In fact I still love him and always will. It’s just that we couldn’t live in the same area code.
I’m not sure which is better; I’ve had all to eventually fail!

Love can only be partially explained!

Being in a mutual relationship that turned sour, can make you more than a little gunshy!!!

I have had my share of stalkers who professed to love me!

One of many reasons not to depend on mutual love, one of them always changes, not always for the better!

Two many out there that are manic depressive, bipolar and just plain pyschotic on wicked strange pharmaceutical therapies!!!

1969 summer of love....thank you millions of women who taught us boys to become loved men