Sounds good ... in theory.

That is the dream.

The key is "builds you a home in their heart". This is maddeningly hard to find. Unless, as @linxminx points out, you do it for yourself. Reliably finding it with someone else ignores that most people are so broken / scarred that they are unable to be consistent in this regard. They are too needy and reactive over their own issues.

I say this not to make anyone feel hopeless. I'm not suggesting that the perfect should be the enemy of the good, either. I'm just saying if you can't figure out how to provide this for yourself, you probably won't get it from someone else, either. And you won't have anything to hang onto when, inevitably, others let you down, however temporarily.

And I apply this to myself as well. I have had enough crap happen to me in life that I'm now part of the same problem. And what I need is the same as what my wife or children or anyone else needs -- the space to be human, to falter at times and still be affirmed and safe with your peeps. This is called, in the areligious, generic sense, "grace" or "graciousness". Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater when others screw up, and they will be less likely to do that with you.

I may be growing edges and spikes.

At this point, I would settle for some recreational sex.

I just need to be held.

Well @MissKathleen, this one hits hard for so many reasons..... all I can say is that time keeps passing by relentlessly

That would be nice, but I'm not holding out much hope at this point.

“What am I, a dog, to be loved?” — Arthur Miller, Incident at Vichy

I like this. It makes me sad, though. I don’t see this ever happening for me. And I have become harder and bitter and distant without this kind of connection.

"When you have the best, why mess with the rest?"

I had that but she didn't stick around.

Very nice Kathleen. I would like to meet someone like that when I am ready. Don't know when that will be. Still healing.......