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Have you ever entered into a relationship with someone who is associated with some kind of religion (Christianity, Judaism, Hinduism etc.) If the answer is 'yes' let me know what your experience was like.

Rashede 4 Dec 21
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Before I was married I never had a relationship with any one that was a non believer that I was aware of ,but i did definitely have religious girlfriends . I have been married for over 30 years to a believer who was raised a catholic like myself but does no longer follow any specific religion .She excepts my non belief .We have no issues in regards to this.Its only an issue if you choose it to be and issue .

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I’ve been married to one for the last 44 years and it’s working just fine. We just don’t discuss religious belief’s or the lack of them.

Smart man ,it indicates you are not a close minded individual and realize there are much more important things to judge a person on .

@richiegtt Thanks I think that term applies to you as well.

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I have been in many such relationships. The ironic part I find is that I worry about being a moral person a lot more than any of them have.

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I have had religious and non religious relationships .If religion is a cause for a failed relationship evidently there was not much of a relationship to begin with or no love was in the equation .Love conquers all.

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I had a brief close-encounter with a woman who was a fundamentalist Christian. When she started trying to convert me, I fled for my life!

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My ex husband joined an Indian cult called the Brahma Kumari. He is still in it. It destroyed our marriage. It took over his life, it was more important to him than our relationship. All our friends were gob smacked and very disappointed when it happened, they though we were the happiest married couple they knew and so well suited. I used to think the same. Just show how little I knew.

@Rashede He always had a need for finding the meaning of life. He was a seeker all the time we were together and before I guess. He says he is happy but not that I no longer am in his life, but I say you cannot have the cake and eat it too, at least not this cake. When it happened I was very upset but over time got over it and I can understand that he has that need, however he could have it all but he did not understand that it involved a balance and compromise. So I refuse to be part of his life anymore, but you know I am now very happy. I have family and friends who love me and whom I love, I have somewhere nice to live, plenty of clothes to wear, lots to eat, nice social interactions with people. What els can one ask for.

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My girlfriend was a Christian when we met. And she did the worst thing any Christian could ever do, ask questions. And if that wasn't bad enough, she ask questions to an atheist. You should've seen her reaction when I surprised her with a trip to Charleston to "watch the solar eclipse" in 2017. Which happened to be the American Atheists national convention. She was still a Christian at the time. Her reaction was priceless. So we're the example, when a Christian has questions, and the preachers just answer, it's just god's way. And as an atheist, when a Christian sincerity asks you questions, don't ignore them. Answer them as truthfully as you can, because they've got the run around by fellow christians that don't know what they're talking about. I hope this helps.

@Meaniebabyinga YAY meanie baby!

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I am married to a Methodist (10 years and going.) We get along just fine.

I think the key is to keep a sense of humor and not take yourself (or the next guy) too seriously.

We laugh a lot. And even if I can't wiggle my way out of 'going through the motions' once a year as I would prefer, it really doesn't cause me any harm one hour once a year for Xmas.😄 I travel a lot for work and sometimes the customs and traditions of the locals can take days.

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Welcome to the asylum. Enjoy your stay.

I have, and it has never worked out in the long run.
Despite initial "guarantees" that my atheism was accepted and they would never
make an effort to convert or otherwise proselytize, inevitably, that turned out to
be untrue.
Not one of the men I was involved with were church-goers, but when push came
to shove, they resorted to challenging my character based on their religious beliefs.
They went back on those promises made to me as soon as my non-belief interfered with their expectations of how I "should" act at any given time. Any time my positions on issues, or behavior, ran counter to what they wanted, they started citing how my
atheism made me a "bad" woman so fast, it would make the Roadrunner blush.

Most especially, whenever it came to sex. If they were in the mood and I wasn't,
I wasn't submitting to my man's "needs".
If I was in the mood and they weren't, I was being an "un-holy whore".

Absolutely fucking staggering.

Wow

@KKGator That doesn't surprise me at all, and I doubt that it has anything to do with religion.

@Stephanie99 Agreed. Mostly, I think it's just a "useful" justification.

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I am currently in a relationship with a Christian doesnt go to church but the religion is insculpted in him. So just in case you wanna have kids talk about boundaries before you start to get to serious.

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I avoid them like the plague . . .

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both of my long term partners have had a very different approach to religion... my first (late) wife (15 yrs) was a dedicated United Church supporter.... My present partner (15yrs) was raised in a Jewish context... I have been atheistic for both and there was never any issues.... respect of the other was the hallmark..

blzjz Level 7 Dec 21, 2019
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Well, I'm a atheistic jew, my wife was a catlic, she's dead now, died from alzheimer before she was 60, we were married for 40 years, we loved each other.
That's all you need to know.

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I have ben an atheist for over 50 years. I also am happily married to a devout Catholic and the relationship has lasted for over 2 years. The key is that we each respect the other's right to believe as he or she chooses, and that we treat each other with dignity, respect and caring.

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I am currently in a relationship with a Christian. He isn't a radical Christian, and he doesn't think less of me for not believing- it fact he didn't seem to care that I don't believe. I really think if I could get him to really consider things logically, I could sway him. We converse on many subjects that we disagreed on and I was able to open his mind. He's willing to listen and learn, and that is a great thing. I think it can work, depending on the people and the extent to which the believer is involved and how set the beliefs are.

The problem here is that both sides are trying to sway the other even if they do not admit it. The "believer/non-believer game" can become as bad as the abused woman who knowingly picked a bad boy and thinks his abuse is proof that he loves her. There are a few people, however, who never enter into the "belief games." I find it strange that some people even think that jealousy in a relationship is a good thing when actually it is poison.

@DenoPenno he's never tried to sway me, and I've never actively tried to sway him either, although I'm more likely to talk about atheism than he is about christianity. He just doesn't bring it up, except to casually mention when telling me about his day that he went to church. He never even tells me about what the sermon was about.

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I've never been in a relationship with anyone who wasn't religious. My wife is a Christian, but when we met I was still semi religious. I'm the one who changed, not her and we have a good relationship.

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I think it really comes down to. are you and your partner willing to put more stock in a relationship farther that your religious/political/ what ever.
By saying that I have quite a few friends that spanthrough the spectrum from, some are right, some are left. Some are believers, some are not. The one common denominating factor, is that we value each other for the kind of human being we are to one another.
If you can accept that. then there is non problem.
If you, or your partner can't get past that. then you are just waiting for the fall.
I can honestly say that I have some great friendships with those who may not have the same stance on politics, or religion, yet we truly value each others company, ans opinions.

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I've been in two long term relationships with believers.

They both turned out to be massive hypocrites. I'd never do it again.

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My prior / late wife and I were both evangelical Christians when we married, though not actively practicing really. I deconverted late in our relationship, but it never presented a problem for her. I'll never know for sure if this was just because she had bigger fish to fry than to get upset about my existential issues, like, you know, staying alive and coping with the gradual dissolution of her existence -- or whether she would have been equally unconcerned and gracious if she had been completely well. I like to think the latter. Our relationship was never based on a mutual fascination with Jesus, but with each other. She was too smart to be honked off at me for my beliefs, which weren't truly under my control. We believe based on what we know and how we relate it to lived experience; it mostly isn't chosen.

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My ex-wife was Jewish. She was a progressive and had no problem with my beliefs. Just exited a relationship with a Christian women. In neither case was religion a problem. Have been an atheist for 45 years and was upfront about my beliefs.

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In the middle of divorcing my very religious wife. It's not religion but how she holds it that's the problem.

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Hell is real !!! 😂😂

great you can have my spot too..

@blzjz One hellish experience is more than plenty....thanks but no thanks 🙂

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My wife is a buddhist. We get along great.

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My x-wife was a believer. There were many times when it was impossible to deal with her religious delusions. It caused a rift in our relationship not because I had any problems with her belief but because she hated my lack of belief.

Now I am dating a 5th generation witch. She accepts my lack of beliefs and I accept her spirituality. It is no problem for us as she is a good human being.

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I dated a Mormon for over a year. She tried to convert me and we broke up. I was actually somewhat of a believer when we first started dating but quickly started down the path of scepticism and became an atheist for the first time. She chose to love her false beliefs more than her living, breathing boyfriend. So I told her that I didn't share the same beliefs as her and the tower came crashing down.

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