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How important is physical attraction? In thinking of first dates, potential interests. I love talking for hours and a good mind is such a turn on but if there isn't a physical attraction I wouldn't be able to go further. I'm not talking sexiest man alive but I'm not trying to pretend it doesn't matter. I've talked with people who say it doesn't play a factor and wonder how important it is to others.

pepperjones 8 Mar 27
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The older I get the less physical attraction is important. I don't want to be with someone I can't stand to look at but he doesn't need to be gq necessarily. I'm more interested in personality

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Physical attraction might be a fairly moot point if there are not other factors in play. There is the Beauty and the Beast theme, there's the Hunchback of Notre Dame theme, I don't know if there's a good male female reversal of these themes available in cinematography. There's the Roxane or Cyrano theme. There is vocal attraction or auditory attractiveness. But photographically or visually the eye can perceive themes of beauty so of course you would be interested in seeing a partner who's beautiful, as beauty can be seen as impressive or pleasing, at least initially or in certain moments as pertains to a person. Also there's the Phantom of the Opera theme.

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Isn’t it amazing when it’s mutual? Sparks fly!

The thing is though, if other compatibility issues don’t align and you make a commitment to each other, your life could be in turmoil. It’s always hard to address the red flags in that state of ecstasy. Just saying.

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Hey I appreciate the sight of a super hot lady as much if not more than anybody. But that is not where the spark is for me, sexy is in the mind. I am attracted to a bright mind, kind person.
I have been out with hot women (strange as that may sound) yet I only start realising how hot they are when other people comment. Usually about how I am hitting above my weight no doubt.
If the mind works well for me plus the personality, the sex is usually amazing and I can't get enough of them.

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Dated a guy i found attractive. He was nice enough, & interesting, but he was very busy & did not have time or energy to devote to a relationship. We went out a couple of times & the 3rd date he kissed me. It was the literal kiss of death for that relationship. No spark, zero chemistry, for both of us. The end.

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EXTREMELY!

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I wish I could add something, but you nailed it. Physcal attractin isn't everything but it tends to get the ball rolling.

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I agree, appearance isn't everything, but it's something. There has to be some physical attraction in the mix. ?

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Physical attraction is important, I think, but if I really like a woman I find that she becomes more physically attractive to me (and if I dislike a woman's personality, her physical beauty starts to diminish).

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I have to be attracted physically for sure but I also need much more than good looks. I can't even imagine the people who are saying it doesn't play a factor talking to someone and not seeing them or touching them being seemingly happy enough with that to make a lifelong choice of living with them. maybe it's just me.

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I don't see any other. Beautiful minds look ugly and inept during sex. Physical is for the physical aspect. Communion of the minds is for the mind aspect. But physical is sexual appeal... is the animal call... do not bring other aspects like religion, marital status, fiscal responsibility, society status, education, political inclination, etc. Physical = Sex. Not that complicated, simply in the eye of the beholder, is the flesh! The physical importance of my Mate.

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To me there has to be several items for a meaningful connecton; emotional, mental, physical and fiscal. The main thing I look for in the physical is health and how a person takes care of themself. At my 'stage of life' I do not expect (nor want) eye candy but it would be nice to want to feel some attraction to the person I may wake up next to.

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