I see it as sort of presumptious to ask someone out for a romantic holiday like NY eve or V-day unless you have been dating for at least a few weeks time and there seems to be fairly equal interest. Otherwise, you may get turned down because the other person either sees you as too serious about them, desperate, or that they are also dating others and hoping for better offers on the upcoming holidays above.

Sounds like this guy was maybe seeing other women besides you and his plans for NY with another one of them fell thru. At the same time, maybe he suspected you were doing the same thing and ended up going out with someone else that evening. I think it's naive and unflattering early in the dating process with someone to assume that each of you are only dating each other. I wish more people would act like adults and recognize the reality of parallel dating being a very common occurrence and in doing so be grown up enough to either accept this reality quietly and let things play out naturally as they get to know each other or else speak up to the other person if they are concerned about whether the other person is seeing others early on. Be enough of an adult to ask the ? and also be adult enough to honestly answer. That discussion does not have to end or harm the relationship as long as both recognize that people deserve to know after several dates, or at least after things have become sexual, where they stand with the other. Are they seeing other people and is this going somewhere or not? These are appropriate ?s after a few months if one or more of the couple are seeking a LT.

If they have only seen each other a few times, this stuff is too premature and being concerned with it is needy, desperate, a turn-off and not the other's business if things have been strictly sexless...