Are you a jealous person ?
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I can be, and this will probably piss off a few people, but I think that anyone who says they aren't at all jealous is full of shit.
You might as well tell me you never lie, or masturbate.
Paul628
Level 8
Mar 28, 2018
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Jealousy is naturally occuring, yes but it's also something that pops up in sibling relationships. Do we encourage that in our kids,believing it means they really love us? No. We soothe their fears and help them work past their jealousy. It's a biological leftover that serves no worthwhile purpose any longer. One sibling isn't likely to die because their counterpart/s take some attention away from them.
Similarly a relationship needn't die simply because someone new has entered the picture. Why throw out something and someone you've spent so much time building a relationship with?I admire the way some poly people treat jealousy, like a malady to be gotten over rather than an integral component of a relationship.
Do you limit your circle of friends for fear that someone will be liked better than you are? That would be juvenile
In the context of modern society, I see no benefit in fostering jealousy in interpersonal relationships. If you've got any instance in which jealousy has made someone happier, healthier or more secure, please share.
@Blindbird The post didn't ask for a specific context, only if we were a jealous person.
As you stated, jealousy is naturally occurring. It may be minimalized but not totally eliminated, just like any other emotion.
I suppose it may be possible for a sociopath or psychopath to pull off.
@Paul628. As I stated, I think its entirely possible(and healthier) for a healthy person to work through. Again if you can show me some instance or way in which jealousy is beneficial,I'd be happy to hear it. The post may not have asked for context however context is important in stating my opinion on this AND nothing exists independently of context. Trying to separate a concept or feeling from its context is silly and unrealistic.
@Blindbird Why do you insist on me giving you an instance of jealousy being beneficial when I implied nothing of the sort?
I only stated that it's an emotion that everyone has, whether good or bad it's there.
If only for a fleeting moment we all have pangs of jealousy.
@Paul628 and my point is that its maladaptive and can be worked through so as not to cause trouble. Its the same as any other emotion or behaviour. If it benefits you, by all means keep up with it. If on the other hand it causes you pain, problems in your relationships or unnecessary stress, why hold on to it?
@Blindbird Again, I didn't state that is was good or bad either way.
Even if it is an extremely short pang of jealousy what you choose to do with it is up to you.
Whatever way you want to deal with it is irrelevant, my point is that it is there and you can't completely eliminate it.
I try not to be, but it's very difficult when my depression tells me everyone else is more interesting/attractive/intelligent/etc than me.
memorylikeasieve
Level 7
Mar 28, 2018
2
To a healthy extent. But I often make jealousy jokes. "Excuse me who is 'adele' and why did you like the cunts work?
LadyAlyxandrea
Level 8
Mar 28, 2018
2
I wouldn’t stay in one if I felt that. I think jealousy is a byproduct of a lack of trust. Honesty and trust are an absolute must in a relationship. I do know there are a lot of people who are just naturally jealous people, I don’t view that as okay in my world. However I am single, so what the hell do I know.
Tony80223
Level 7
Mar 28, 2018
2
Nope.
OpposingOpposum
Level 9
Mar 28, 2018
2
But you claim to have given birth to the green-eyed monster?
@EricTrommater what now? No. I have two wild, blue eyed viking monkeys.
@Blindbird well I'm blue green gray color blind...
@EricTrommater Thats interesting. Isn't that the rarest type?
@Blindbird it's only an issue at stop lights.....
@EricTrommater how do you cope with that? Genuinely curious.
I admit to being quite insecure in relationships, I have been excessively jealous in the past. Less so now, that is not necessarily a good thing. In my case it is more along the lines of, oh well if she cheats, then it is yet another failed attempt.
Rugglesby
Level 8
Mar 28, 2018
2
Nah, I trust people. Too much apparently.
carcmcgarc
Level 5
Mar 28, 2018
3
Jnei:
Me too.
To be Jealous or not to be Jealous
Jealous do you gain anything
There is a lot of energy used - working up getting upset, getting stress, feeling unhappy- which then lead to illness,then you are spiralling downfall into a abyss. Can you lift your self out it depends do you have the strength to lift your self out
What can you do to overcome jealously
Not jealous do you gain anything
You be a better person you move on you try to learn how he achieved it,If he can do so can i.
Instead being jealous try new avenues- I am divorce too I have not see my kids or my dog for the last 5 years. Yes I can be jealous too but what will I gain I instead text my ex and she send me photos of which I am grateful for.At this point of time thisis the only avenue I have time will heal and hopefully one day I will get a chance to see my kids . Instead of being jealous work on it learn and understand what it takes to removes that jealously bit or part. I envy people with boats/cars/houses
But instead of being envy of this phsycial things I will grattitude that I am free and I can do whatever I want to do like climbing Everest which I did last year. But I can work towards getting the cars/houses but he has to work pretty hard to climb everest
Hope this give a small hint side of life.
Rosh
Level 7
Mar 29, 2018
2
I have been in the past, and will probably be in the future, to an extent. But I am working on it oh so hard ?
absaluteviktory5
Level 5
Mar 28, 2018
2
Was married 27 years to a woman who was not habitually honest. Its not that I was jealous, just that I avoided many life opportunities I would have enjoyed because I did not trust her. Learning to dance and enjoying it!
TaylorWalston
Level 6
May 7, 2018
1
Was married 27 years to a woman who was not habitually honest. Its not that I was jealous, just that I avoided many life opportunities I would have enjoyed because I did not trust her. Learning to dance and enjoying it!
TaylorWalston
Level 6
May 7, 2018
1
After all the good, human stuff, growing up, establishing a career, finding that special person, raising good kids, paying off the mortgage, do you find yourself wondering, what the hell is the point of everything? I don’t have an answer, and I’d like to hear other people’s thoughts.
Lostwax
Level 4
Apr 15, 2018
1
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