I think it's more personal than universal.
I've had a couple women start a First kiss with their mouths wide open. Like a huge double barn door. Like one entire wall of their face was gone, right away. To me that's not good. I'm a guy and I still want to build up to open face mouth mashes.

I think people kiss differently based on their mouth shape and size and probably passion. I have a small mouth and I dated a guy that would practically bite my cheeks, his mouth was so big. It was not a good match. The kiss is important to me. Chemistry is different for me, that's more based on how smoothly we communicate. Also, practice makes perfect! Lol!

Kissing is an art that can be learned with practice. That being said, how one person likes to be kissed may not be what another person likes. One must be able to adapt. I love a good kisser, but good to me is , well, my idea of good!

I think kissing properly is the most passionate thing you can do so has to be special.

Hello, thinds like kissing cannot be taught. Whatever you do, relax, put your heart and soul into it and be willing to follow someone elses lead if necessary. All will be OK! We can't always like what we are doing. I suppose it also depends on which parts you are kissing ! Good luck.

I think it is as simple as being at the right place at the right time. Mood, physical attraction, right talk, shared interest, pleasant smells all adding up to a sensual experience. Techniques can be taught. But for the wow, tingling, nipple erecting or hopefully passionate kissing ones to survive the two must be enaged by desire.

Kissing is a wonderful thing. If you really like it you can get good at it. If you don't care for it you won't. Difficult or not it may get down to communication.

I think people can learn but everyone has a different ‘capacity’ for it imo.

It’s like conversation - there are different preferences but some people are just better at it than others.

I went on a date with someone I met on a dating site. We met walking our dogs and hit it off. Decided to drop my dog and car off at my hpuse and jumped in his truck. Went to my favorite Mexican restaurant and had dinner and drinks. He took me home and didn't want to let me out of the truck. Great kisser he said. Chemistry galore. Told me he was making dinner for me that weekend and he had all kinds of plans for the weekend. Said good nite. Come Friday I'm getting ready for the weekend. Fifteen minutes before he was supposed to pick me up hecalled and cancelled. Never saw or heard from him again but he knew how to kiss.

Never gave kissing much thought, until you posted! I remembered back when I was married to third husband, his kissing was more like, 'suck fish,' and I never got used to it! I surely didn't want to judge a man by his kissing, but it was odd, at best! Maybe you cannot teach kissing...do we know if the 'caveman/women' kissed?

I think you have a legitimate point.

I’m not sure if that “chemistry” can be taught.

Of course! Communication is the key.

Some kissers are better than others

Possibly some things can be taught -- or maybe learned by experience. But I agree with you -- sometimes there's a chemistry that defies explanation. I have the great fortune to have recently found this. Never thought it would happen again!

Thank you all for the thoughtful comments. I might add, when I was 19 (yes I can remember that far back) I dated an older, more experienced man of 29 and upon our first kiss he 'instructed' me to do nothing, just receive the kiss to get a feel for his preferred style. I always thought that was good advice for a first kiss. Unfortunately, he was a pretty forgettable kisser as we dated four years and I can't remember a single thing about them.

People are different. Different people enjoy different kisses.
Personally I am not into it, yet apparently am not three bad at it. According to some.
Surely it has a lot to do with who you are kissing as to how you feel about it.
Imagine Donald Trump was the worlds greatest kisser. How would you feel kissing him passionately?

Can good kissing be taught? I have taught people how to kiss and I must that it is possible. Most of the cases it depends on the two people kissing I bet

I think it can. But I also think it needs to be gently handled. It's hard to communicate how though.

I messed up a good potential relationship once because I was afraid to tell him his kissing was not what I needed. I still feel badly about that.

would it be impossible, I think everything can be tought. Kissing has a lot to do with your preference, I think, so you might want to get that man to kiss you again, but record it this time and attention instead of enjoying it, so you can relate what you want from others, in the future. I don't think you can expect something if you don't even know what you want thought

I think certain things could be taught, but I also think that the passion behind a kiss is what makes it amazing.

My limited experience with dating,having only been widowed for 7 years has taught me that kisses are always better if people have to wait on them a little while. First kisses should be gentle and tongueless. Two guys greeted me with pushy French kisses on the first date and I was definitely not interested in a second one. Chemistry is much more likely to happen when some anticipation is put in the mix.