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How would everyone feel about being refused a date because you’re an atheist? Im good friends with a bloke, I’ve made it clear that I’d like to see more of him, but he told me he couldn’t date me because of my beliefs. I’m not sure how I feel about this. I don’t think I’d care about the beliefs or lack of in a partner.

TuppyG 4 Apr 1
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His loss. There might have been a problem down the road with respect, so consider yourself lucky. Also sometimes there is a problem with extended family members of your love interest who wouldn't respect or accept you.

For example, decades ago, I married into a religious family, who considered me the devil incarnate, due to me being openly secular. Caused a lot of grief throughout our 29 year marriage, because my (now ex)husband (who was also atheist) simply couldn't stand up to his mother and brothers regarding excluding me from their holiday gatherings.

Therefore I was left home while my (ex)husband and children were invited to relatives homes for Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving, etc. Ex-hubby simply couldn't stick up for me to his ultra catholic family. Mind you I was raised catholic also, so it's also my heritage, but what a relief it was to leave that family over ten years ago!

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Best to let men do the chasing, since they're wired to be the pursuers, if they are normal, cis, hetero men. If you go after them, they run, unless they have a lot of female traits.

Besides, if you let your views be known, then only men who agree with you will ask you out. If you let them.

Women have always been the chasers. Men just don't realise it.

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Might feel disappointed but couldn't ping them for being honest. If that is important to them then that is important to them no matter how delusional I might think it is. From their point of view why would they hook up with someone who is going to hell and might drag them along for the ride. For the devout it is like "Would you date a active car thief?", most of us wouldn't do that knowingly.

Kimba Level 7 Apr 1, 2018
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He does so move on and kick him to the curb.

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Actually, I would laugh and be thankful that I found out how shallow she was early.

How is she shallow?

Would your preference be to date a believer?

@BlueWave , obviously I switched sexes since the writer was a female. I meant that her partner was shallow!

@chollygee I think the sex mixup was my fault! In any event, how is the person who doesn’t want to date an atheist shallow? Is not shallow meant to be an insult or a negative term about a person? I’m just trying to understand from a couple of you how it makes someone shallow to not want to date an atheist.

@BlueWave you are refreshing. I have little tolerance for control fiends. I feel that control fiends are shallow, by definition

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Same here

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Feel sorry for someone so narrow minded - he's probably conservative on other issues. Thank your lucky stars.

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