I mowed the lawn for my ex today... she has a broken toe (damn I bet that hurts) and hasn't been able to get to it this spring. First time I've touched a lawnmower since the divorce, which is frankly one of the few bonuses to living in a 2-room apartment; no lawn to mow.
I guess I'm a pretty good ex-husband, as ex-husbands go.....
My 2nd husband moved my ex husband's mother out of my ex husband's house when she called me and said she had to find a way to move.. My 2nd husband also emptied the trash trailer for his ex wife for the 1st 15 years of the divorce when there were kids at home. We built a second bedroom in the attic so his girls could have separate bedrooms and he paid child support and had regular every other week visitations the whole time they were growing up. I never heard him say anything mean or derogatory about the woman other than that she never talked. I bet some men would love that. My ex husband can only be described as a vegetable he never paid child support and only visited the kids sporadically.I bet he probably spent 80% of his life on a divan. You couldn't say he was good or bad he was just nothing. I invite him to Thanksgiving and Christmas when my kids are here and he often comes. I believe the most important part of a divorce with kids is the kids.
My ex helped me move. Right after I left him, my mother died, and since I had only clothing/personal effects, I got most of her furniture, etc, for the place I had just found near Asheville.
Now, he attended her funeral and did his trick of upsetting me to speechlessness and tears in the car, then jumping out, playing βnice guyβ for the family. ...but he DID help load the U-Haul and drove it two hours to Asheville, and helped unload it.
Credit where itβs due.
You have kids?