Below is the invite heading to a short lived non religious group in the UK. Although it failed after a few months, do you think it was a practical suggestion ? Did it have a chance of succeeding ? Would it have worked in the US?
Its title was **DARE TO BE HONEST**
Hi
Let us co-create a community where we are safe to share what we feel, think, what made a lasting effect on us, or what disturbs us.
In our meetings in the opening round we all tell something personal about ourselves that we would like to share in a loving community. Then we connect to each other, validating what we heard, sharing our own stories, reflecting on what touched us, sharing our insights and conjectures, even asking questions.
All members need to be psychologically stable and experienced enough, enabling us to share a lot of helpful insights about ourselves and the others, and make good use of what we hear. I hope our meetings will be intense, personal, caring and emotional.
Please contact me if you are interested.
Janos
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We invite the others to relate to what we told, and to give their honest views and feedback. It is an outspoken, friendly community, not a therapy group. We discuss topics both outside and inside of the group (our relations with each other, here and now). What is personal, moving, touching, important for you/us? Let us talk about these.
We disclose who we really are. We speak from our hearts. We dare to face the (inner and outer) reality, choosing to be authentic, even when it feels risky and uncomfortable. We support each other to dare to live more and more honestly. Here we make a genuine effort not to play games, we abstain from (self-)delusion, biases, projection, usual (unjust) ego-defences.
We need the warmth of liking each other to lower our guards, masks, roles, disguises. What are your criteria to be honest? Let us co-create a place where we meet our criteria.
Hopefully we attain a state where we genuinely feel that we like/love each other. My main motivations are: to make friends, feel compassionately, connect with mind and heart, feel accepted and appreciated, understand others better, gain insights, inspiration, support, personal development, practise daring to tell what I feel and think, in a nurturing way. These are the benefits you can expect too.
I participated in several encounter, group dynamics, heart, non-violent communication
(https://www.cnvc.org/learn/nvc-foundations), Bohm dialogue (http://www.david-bohm.net/dialogue/dialogue_proposal.html), training (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/T-groups), co-counselling (http://www.co-counselling.org.uk/)
I am atheist, liberal, vegetarian, 48. I like the enlightenment, respect reality, and dislike bullshit. I am an economist, I work as an IT consultant, I worked as a business and life coach as well. I am an immigrant, moved to the UK 4 years ago from Hungary, with my wife and two daughters, who went to university.
A group norm is to inform the others, to enable the others to make informed decisions, avoiding regret and resenting. We pledge to strive to avoid deceiving others - in every sense. It is a good place to practise candour, being brave and telling what there is inside me, facing and dealing with the consequences, creating clarity, finding purity, relief, freedom, peace, wholehearted life, enthusiasm, energy.
Does anyone think that this chap is looking for a Roman Catholic Priest without the religion? He could have had one in the past. Roman Catholic priests keep the revelations secret when they should have told the police. How religions distort.
So much of this, I would think, can only come with trust built on experience, and long term communications....To ask it, without that trust would not be something I could, or would be interested in.
They are asking a lot of their participants.