Follow up to "A Major Milestone" post. I had a first date today with a guy I met through a dating app. The first thing he said to me was, "you look better than your picture on the website.". (Which was a little disappointing because I chose that picture because I thought it was a decent image of me.". THEN he said, "Yeah, you look a lot better than your picture. I wouldn't mind being seen with you.". I think he thought he was giving me a compliment, but I feel like a carpet remnant. "Well, you look better than you did in the ad, so I'll put you down in the mudroom and walk all over you.".
Am I over-reacting? I might see him again, but am not sure. OH -- he used his opportunity for a hug to cop a feel. Not very classy.
Awkward pic comments aside: the hug seems like it's a huge red flag.
I would say no, you aren't overreacting.
Yeah, you shouldn’t be with someone who doesn’t respect you. You deserve better than that, don’t you?
Sometimes when we (guys) trying to make compliment we do it not too good. We can never make it up to your (girls?) level. So I would not judge too hard by one phrase. But if overall first impression is not positive - why do you even ask our opinion? It's your dating life ? live it by tour tools!
A comment like that can certainly go either way.....on a dinner date I had with a dating site guy - meeting each other for the first time - he said to me "If you don't mind me saying, your pictures don't do you justice". I did take that as a compliment. I can certainly see how you felt given the way your date phrased it - maybe he's just not good at expressing himself - a little foot in mouth syndrome? In the end though, you just need to trust your instincts.....
That was strange at best...maybe the guy was trying to pay a compliment and some people are more nervous than others and his effort was a little 'off!' If you like him, I guess he should get another chance. I have said some pretty stupid things at the wrong time, in my day! I think I sometimes have a problem with silence! Lol
Gross!
Dump him. Surely you have more self-respect than to tolerate such behavior.