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Follow up to "A Major Milestone" post. I had a first date today with a guy I met through a dating app. The first thing he said to me was, "you look better than your picture on the website.". (Which was a little disappointing because I chose that picture because I thought it was a decent image of me.". THEN he said, "Yeah, you look a lot better than your picture. I wouldn't mind being seen with you.". I think he thought he was giving me a compliment, but I feel like a carpet remnant. "Well, you look better than you did in the ad, so I'll put you down in the mudroom and walk all over you.".
Am I over-reacting? I might see him again, but am not sure. OH -- he used his opportunity for a hug to cop a feel. Not very classy.

citronella 7 Apr 8
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Awkward pic comments aside: the hug seems like it's a huge red flag.

I would say no, you aren't overreacting.

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Run. Far away. In the opposite direction. What a classless jackass.

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While I think his words and his intention was a compliment , I have a feeling his presentation , showed you who he truly was . If you don't like him , when he's attempting to be nice , bear in mind , it isn't going to bet better .

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Yeah, you shouldn’t be with someone who doesn’t respect you. You deserve better than that, don’t you?

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Sometimes when we (guys) trying to make compliment we do it not too good. We can never make it up to your (girls?) level. So I would not judge too hard by one phrase. But if overall first impression is not positive - why do you even ask our opinion? It's your dating life ? live it by tour tools!

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A comment like that can certainly go either way.....on a dinner date I had with a dating site guy - meeting each other for the first time - he said to me "If you don't mind me saying, your pictures don't do you justice". I did take that as a compliment. I can certainly see how you felt given the way your date phrased it - maybe he's just not good at expressing himself - a little foot in mouth syndrome? In the end though, you just need to trust your instincts.....

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That was strange at best...maybe the guy was trying to pay a compliment and some people are more nervous than others and his effort was a little 'off!' If you like him, I guess he should get another chance. I have said some pretty stupid things at the wrong time, in my day! I think I sometimes have a problem with silence! Lol

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Nope

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Gross!
Dump him. Surely you have more self-respect than to tolerate such behavior.

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Run!

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As a guy he sounds like a shallow prick. Run for the exits!

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