I have no idea but I do have an unreasonable crush on Gal Gadot.

Is it OK to be a human?

Of course it is. Love is not pie. You won't run out. What you do with that crush is what says a lot about you. You can calmly and rationally discuss the situation with your significant other, or you can do what the religions have shoved down our throats for all our lives and repress those feelings, deny them, pretend they don't exist. Or you can be a real dick and pursue your crush and hide it from your S.O.

having a crush is fine, how you respond 2 it can be a different matter. and a lot of it depends on what kind of relationship you are in. i have friends who are in completely open relationships, i have friends who are ok with sharing an agreed upon mate, i have friends who are ok with looking and enjoy pointing out an atractive fellow or lady 2 each other, but are otherwise strictly only for each other. i have friends where none of that would be ok. as long as both/all people in a relationship are open about what they are comfortable with, there shouldnt be a problem

One cannot control who he or she has a "crush" on. This happens too one and not by one. It might be better to keep it a secret for a while since divulging it to you mate might cause them to react irrationally and cause a lasting problem when the crush might not even last. If I were in a fulfulling relationship with a mature woman I would probably tell her about it and try to make a joke out of it and would hope that she would do the same.

I think it’s difficult to avoid that, what matters is if you act on it.

You know what makes it more alluring? When someone thinks it's not okay.

Absolutely. What you do about it is a matter for negotiation between the people involved.

It's almost bound to happen.

I think that is probably healthy. Dreaming and acting upon are different.

Yes, so long as you do not act on it .

I don't know if it is OK, but it is normal.

As long as you just look from afar. I have a crush on the Trivago guy.

As long as you don’t act on it.

What do you think? Do you really care about what I think about that?

I think it's normal.

You can't help who you are attracted to but you can control what you do about it. If you find yourself attracted to someone outside of a manongamous relationship then there is a good chance there are problems with the relationship. You should either deal with those issues and work with your partner to make the relationship stronger or end the relationship.

Yeah. It's awesome.

The next question, and most important, is, 'What am I going to do about this feeling?"

Me? I write about my desires. I explore the feelings via song lyrics, and some very sexually explicit stories. How is that wrong?

I am ethically polyamorous, so, yes, I do think it's ok. And in my relationship agreement, I can even act on it if I wanted to, as long as we talked about it first.

You'd have to be dead not to

Without vice, there is no virtue.

Ok to whom ?

Whether it's ok or not, I'm quite sure it happens ... we all dream, fantasize, imagine , wonder "what if" ...

I have never been in that situation.

I never felt that way when I had boyfriends.