Responsibility for your actions.

Maturity is taking responsibilities for your actions and making changes in order to better yourself.

Someone who has their shit together - emotionally, financially, socially and healthy.

To me that is code for "you must be able to put up with my bullshit."

No idea.

Would somebody let me know so that I can avoid it please?

They can and will 'carry their own water', both financially and emotionally.

I'm 53 and I refuse to mature.

The ability to consider others' needs as well as your own, is one aspect of maturity.

To me, it's all about responsibility. If you can manage your finances, your home, your emotions, and feed your intellect, you're good to go. It has nothing to do with age. I've met twenty-somethings who have their shit more together than seventy-somethings.

Sometimes it just means they don't live in their parents' basement and they h have an honest to goodness paying job.

Depends on what you consider mature. who wants to grow up?

Most normal women hope for a partner who is responsible with money and the possessions of others, who is willing listen to others and see alternate perspectives. Women want someone who will put them first, have their back, be there for them, honor and respect them as equals.

If the guy wants to play video games all day, grabs all the food for himself, never lifts a finger to help, constantly runs off with his male friends, insults her family and friends and tries to make her only visit his family, etc., she won't stay long.

Integrity based on life experiences. And if you know who Bette Davis is.

Maturity is a state that is acheived by a high degree self-realization. It allows folks who have achieved it to really listen to other people and discover the commonality of human experience instead of focusing in on diffrences and being judgemental. It means being on the LOVE end of the emotional spectrum (most of the time). Being able to identify ones own feelings, listen to the message they convey, and then taking CONSTRUCTIVE action is being mature.

It all depends on your point of view.

I have been accused of acting like a collage kid, because I like to have parties and can “act” immature at times.

However, I am financially secure. The only debt I have is real estate. I live well within my means and take my career very serious and I am on track to retire early.

On the other hand, I have a friend in the same field and works at the same company. He is only a 5 years younger than I am. He is quiet, doesn’t like to party and acts very mature.

However, he is a total train wreck financially. He rents a room from me as he can’t afford a house or apartment. He is in debt to his eyeballs, and buys every infomercial item he sees. He keeps talking about how good I do with money and asked me for advice.

I sat down with him, worked out a budget, and a plan to pay off his debt. We juggled some of his debt to lower the interest as well. I have tried to help him stay on track. I am not charging him much for rent so he could pay off his debt. He got his student loans paid off, and was within a year of paying off his credit cards.

He started dating a girl that has a nicer car than him. So he immediately goes out and buys a new car. Not only that, but he has spent about $6k in after market upgrades in the first month of having the vehicle. New stereo, carbon fiber trim pieces, “special mirrors”, etc... now he is worse off than he was when he moved in a year ago. He made a comment the other day after receiving another package for his car: “I need to get to a point where I don’t HAVE to spend money on this car”.

I am the “party guy”, but to me, he is the one that is immature.

Coordinate your expenses to be paid.
Get yourself places you need to be on time.
Cook a meal of some sort.

My simple answer is, someone who owns their shit.

I think maturity is so over-rated. I refuse to give into it.

I don't know. I haven't got there yet.

I have no clue. If you find out let me know.

I act my age sometimes.